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I like the division of those who believe love can die and those who think it can't. It's interesting. I actually don't think love can die either, which is why I asked this question. I told my ex awhile ago that I could have loved him forever. And he replied something like "forever didn't end up happening. So how can you know that" well, I still love him to this day despite being in love with my current boyfriend, but it's an unconditional love, rather than romantic.
I also feel like people are defining love differently here.
Anyways. It was a good read.

[quote=muchadvice]i think it could go away because as we change/grow/mature (as do others) we seek different things. i could be in love with someone for who i thought they were, and it's possible to dislike what theyve become, hence falling out of it.[/quote]

Eh I disagree. If you stop loving someone just because you're "seeking different things" then you never truly loved them in the first place, you were just infatuated on a temporary basis. When you love someone that means you accept the bad as well, they can become the worst person and that shouldn't change how you feel about them. Love is a powerful thing and it doesn't just go away, if it does then that's not love. An example would be a parent who loves their child even though their child is intro drugs and dropped out of school, they may hate what they became but that doesn't mean they love them any less. Similarly in a relationship if you and your partner grow apart for whatever reason and both of you change, you may have to break up but that doesn't mean you stop caring about them.

Love.. love doesn't die. If you've had to part ways with someone, that doesn't mean that you don't love them still. If you don't love them even though they're gone, then perhaps you didn't love them in the first place.

However, a relationship takes two to hold..

when it fades away for a variety of reasons.

How does love die? Love dies when the soft light sparkles along the ice cubes in your glass, like icebergs on the ocean of whisky in your hand, and your eyes meet hers. Cool, dangerous smiles are exchanged as the love you once held so dear fades, sinking in the amber depths of alcohol, out of mind.

Love also dies after an abortion. It just doesn't feel the same after a coat-hanger.

When the attraction isn't too strong to begin with, and he/she's starting to show numerous bad parts of his/her personality (or a few really bad ones).

Mentioning something such as long distance could very likely be an excuse to look for new ppl and/or to be single again.

Some ppl also get "bored" in relationships. They're most likely to be doing it for the achievement/experience and not for an actual secure/deep relationship.

Also trust issues. If your s/o's showing signs that he/she's cheating on you, then you might find it annoying and fall out of love sooner or later. Unless if you're the obsessed/desperate type. but obsession/clinginess can lead to a secure relationship, in which many young ppl these days do not look forward to (many are the "im only in it for the secks" ppl).

Love doesn't go away in my opinion.. If you suddenly can just stop loving someone then you never truly loved them to begin with. You can break up with people you love, but that shouldn't really change how you feel about them.

I guess I'm just talking from my own personal experience, I've loved 2 girls in my life and even though I'm not with either of them anymore I'll still love 'em both til the day I die.

The honeymoon stage was over so I started getting annoyed at some of their traits that I overlooked before. It turned into a boring relationship where we never did anything other than staying in and studying. We never went to restaurants, movies, biking, hiking, other outdoor activities etc. because he didn't have any money and he wasn't willing to get a job to get money. I wasn't even asking him to pay for me or buy me gifts, I just wanted him to eat at restaurants with me occasionally where we each pay for our own food. Eventually it just became me tolerating him because he was a nice guy and I didn't want to hurt his feelings. But you shouldn't stay with someone just because they're nice. My relationship after him was so much more fun, interesting, and fulfilling.

i think U just kinda dreift away

in my relationships i jst got tired of same person n thot 2 myself jeez.. u like a 7/10 in looks i think i can gamble n get a lil better..

then wen i treat them like crap n they leave me i cry like a lil female dog n regret it

so ya u jst get tired of em

i wonder wat if will feel like when i meet the person i never get tired of wow that will b an amazing day yes

cuz me over jelly all the time

This was like...four years ago now, but he cheated on me.

Which just made me unable to trust him, at all.
If there's no trust in the relationship, what's the point?

no more smex

Cuz baby sometimes love just ain't enough

I had a lunch date with a 79 yo lady and she told me this about love. "For it to work, she has to give and he has to give. They have to be 50/50 or else you will lose balance and fall out of love".

I think it's when someone stops trying to keep the relationship going. Or when one side gets bored and has nothing to say, and kind of just drifts apart until they're really done being with the other person. Distrust, big gaps of space between the two people(like not talking or seeing each other for awhile), etcetc.
Like the first person I dated, we were both all fine up to like 4 months? And he didn't really carry a conversation anymore, so I started to lose interest and yeah.
I haven't even thought about losing interest with the person I currently like cx

It doesn't exist, therefore it's dead all the time.

Well.. I've been dating a girl for 6 weeks now and I'm already kind of tired of her. When we see each other in real life then it's fine but when we text, then I can't be bothered.
It just goes to the stage where conversations get boring and where they get too clingy. Luckily we haven't reached the clingy stage yet but yeah, we'll see how it goes I guess.
And in general, I think it could be that couples find seperate things interesting and go their own path, you know?

Assuming here:
^ as they said people start showingg their true colors: racists, homophones, sarcastic, smiles really weirdly, very shy, seemingly not caring enough.
Just several little things that add up over time, and then you meet people who don't do the things your partner does and they seem flirty causing you to doubt your own parnter.

they begin to show traits that you do not like.