Would it be awkward
Hey Basil, it's been a while and I think that I'm finally going to leave for good but I'm trying to get a good mixed opinion on something and figured I might as well try asking here to see what you guys think first.
It hasn't happened yet and I don't have any particular person in mind, but for the first time in my 4 years of high school I'm going to actually go to a dance and I'm going to try actually talking to girls. I'm kind of an awkward person so the approach isn't exactly my strong suit so I was wondering, if a random person came up to you and told you they thought you were attractive and asked for your number or if you wanted to hang out how would you react? I don't care what your sexual orientation is, what your gender is, if you're in a realationship, what would you say?
You can give different answers based on what you'd say depending on how they look.
Anyway thanks guys I'll be here for a bit longer if you want to ask anything.
Also I guess I'll start things off, I think if someone came up to me and said that I'd be really flattered but I can be a little bit shallow and I prefer tall athletic girls.
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I wouldn't give my number just because they complimented me and asked for it.
I would want to have a conversation with the person for at least 3-5 minutes first. If you have a legitimate conversation with a female she will think you are interested in her as a person, instead of just sexually.
@icoleslawderp: I'll keep that in mind
[quote=SuberKieran]@Shipaco that's kinda part of the issue, I go to an all boys school and I don't keep in touch with any of the girls (or like 90% of the guys) from the elementary school.
My plan is to just go up and be like "Hi I'm Kieran and this might be a bit awkward sounding because I'm a bit of a social retard, but I think you're really cute. If you're not too busy right now do you wanna hang out or if you are do you think I could have your number?"[/quote]
Except don't say "social retard" or things that will put you down.
@Shipaco that's kinda part of the issue, I go to an all boys school and I don't keep in touch with any of the girls (or like 90% of the guys) from the elementary school.
My plan is to just go up and be like "Hi I'm Kieran and this might be a bit awkward sounding because I'm a bit of a social retard, but I think you're really cute. If you're not too busy right now do you wanna hang out or if you are do you think I could have your number?"
it definitely depends on the person. I always refuse regardless of looks, simply because of events in my history that have led me to distrust these kinds of advances (many other girls have these experiences too, so don't think they're just being mean/shallow if they refuse.)
definitely try to start a conversation first, try to find an excuse to talk to them, even if its so much as "woah! I really like your shoes." this should break down suspicions at least a little, especially if you're friendly/nervous. really though, I'd think you'd have more luck with girls you are already friends with rather than random girls.
@fradddd: they text me and at the very least we just text back and forth for a while until it dies down or we go somewhere
**random dudes coming up in everyday settings has only happened like 3 or 4 times the past year to me so this isn't statistically significant or anything
i was at a local hookah bar with my cousin, and she gave a guy her number cuz he asked.
@SoggyToast do they usually end up calling you ever? To me it seems like people would only ask for a number from a stranger, call it, then end up dating that person in the movies.
Thanks for the opinion @fradddd and I don't wanna act all cocky about it but I think I'm alright looking.
@LimosocoBobo thanks for the contribution, so far I'm starting to think this is a pretty good idea.
@SoggyToast that's awesome to hear
"Oh thanks." I would not give my number. I would return interest in their invitation to hang out.
any guy who has have done that 2 me in a non "social" setting (so not in a bar or club or something) has always gotten my number at least even if they look just average, esp. if they seem nervous because it means ur going out of ur way to put yourself out there idk i really like that bc people usually have their own agendas and are busy so they probably stopped 2 take interest and probably weren't on the lookout
but like, its sort of weird if you just say "ur hot lets go out"
u should make some small talk, introduce yourself etc etc
w/e you do dont give out your number
dangerous and aggressive ppl like @xaznninja will hunt you down and eat you.
Well, it works on college girls, as you can see in YouTube pranking videos. Of course, those guys are usually handsome...
I'm a guy and if the girl was attractive, I'd give her my number. But us guys are more accepting than girls. I don't know how girls would react...it depends. I personally DO talk to girls, but I would probably never have the nerve to ask for a phone number if I didn't know them a bit first.
But yeah guys are definitely more willing to give a girl their number than vice versa, cause we just check if they're attractive.