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More Tips For Talking to Girls

A while back I made a thread about the very basic steps required to have success in dating. In essence, it was to accept who you are and be comfortable in your own skin, but that's just the start. Here are some other things to keep in mind when talking to a kyut girl:

1. Don't ever be afraid to show interest in her intellectual side! One of the biggest, dumbest myths out there is that girls don't appreciate intelligent conversation. This couldn't be further from the truth, especially when you're meeting someone in class or at a convention. Asking a girl what she finds interesting in a class, why she's taking it, etc. is a great way to show that you are interested in her, not just her body! It will make you stand out if you are a guy that can listen and appreciate who she is!

2. Keep your own hobbies in check. It's cool that you know a lot about guitar amps. It's not cool to start talking about amp model names or highly technical jargon. It may be cute to mention to a nerdy girl you like watching anime. Not so cute to go on a rant about amines you disliked. The key here is letting her know your own interests without being overbearing or being so self-centered you can't even see she's not too interested in all the details.

3. Compliments are appreciated, flattery is not. Like how a girl is dressed that day? Don't be shy and let her know! Everyone feels good when they are told they look good. But keep them to a minimum. Too much seems desperate or like you have nothing better to say. Please don't be dumb and compliment something very physical about her, that's not cool.

4. Nerd out with her! This one may sound weird but it isn't. If you both happen to be history geeks, don't shy away from a good conversation on the topic. The key here is to show your intellectual side (intelligence is sexy, dorkiness is not!) And what you are passionate about. No, sorry, nerd here does not mean you talk about your new computer upgrades and how PC games are superior.

FAQ:

1. Isn't being aloof an attractive quality? Can I show minimum attention and still get girls?

This one is one of those hard questions to answer, mainly because girls are all different. Some girls love shy, quiet guys. Others like attractive but somewhat aloof men. However, it's not cool to fake a personality just to try and manipulate women to like you. That said, if you tend to lean towards being quiet, that's okay! Keep a lookout for girls that start conversation with you and as always, you don't have to be social to find someone, but you do have to be sociable

2. Girls hate it when I try intelligent conversation!

Do they really though? Maybe they just didn't like you. Or maybe you were talking to the wrong kind of girl who isn't interested in that while you are. Just because one or two girls didn't like your attempt at intelligent conversation doesn't mean all girls hate it and remember, there's a time and place for everything and people may be at a different point in their lives. It all comes down to finding people similar to you.

3. What about showing too much interest? Is that a turn off?

Yes it is! But it's one that's very simple to remedy. Don't be overbearing and by too much attention, I simply mean, try to be proportionate to the response you get. If a girl is hesitant to give you her number, don't push it. On the other hand, that advice to not reciprocate the interest a girl shows is wack. If she likes you and you like her, why play games?

That's all for now, good luck Basilers!