Once things get worse in relationship
Hi, I'd like to your personal experience with relationship with others (More close to friendship)
So, I'd like to know if things get bad in a relationship/friendship, is it possible to make it better and become a good friend again?
I personally experienced a bad situation with my crush recently. A friend of mine (Male) (Who is also really close my crush) indirectly asked her, "How's it going with (Me)"?
And, she told him that she thinks of me positively and likes me as a friend. However, she doesn't like having a boyfriend. (Btw, she is really naive about going out with others) And, I think, since then, she is avoiding me. And, does not talk to me first. Also, it seems like she doesn't really want to talk to me. And, I do not know how to deal with this.
Would it be wise to talk to her about it? Or would it only worsen our friendship. How can I improve this situation?
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[quote=iDrinkOJ]It depends on the individual and how much they value your relationship.
[b]Don't waste your time on someone that doesn't care about you.[/b]
Some people are just bad at communicating their feelings or just too selfish to show concern for what someone else is feeling.[/quote]
I personally learned these the hard way. My advice would be to just let go, but not give up because what's meant to be will always find a way. The difference is that you cannot truly let go without trying, but giving up means you didn't even try.
Here's a poem:
We fight for the people, who treat us like crap.
We love the ones, who don't deserve it.
We cry for people, who don't think twice about us.
We try so hard for ones, who always let us down.
There's only so much, you can do.
For once, let people show you they care
YES it'd be wise to talk to her about it. Just to get it over with, and perhaps fix it. Ask her to "get a drink" or "get icecream" or get lunch or dinner or whatever the hell with her. Then bring it up there. Don't treat it as a date though, just treat it like a hangout/talk sesh.
@Spidexe2015 that's kind of almost pointless. I mean, even if you somehow met 20 girls that you could end up liking, you probably wouldn't like any as much as your crush. And you might not find 20 in the first place.
It depends on the individual and how much they value your relationship.
She might have change her feelings toward you. She might feel awkward being around someone that expressed interest.
She might not even care about you cuz she's too busy living her own life.
Don't waste your time on someone that doesn't care about you.
Some people are just bad at communicating their feelings or just too selfish to show concern for what someone else is feeling.
when i was in freshman yr i was making friends and stuff and one of them ended up being my best friend tho i did get pissed off @ her during soph yr bcus she was trying to hook me up w/ my bff even tho SHE was the one who was crushing on him ughh
basically i just didn't rly talk to her for a week, then came back and solved it w/ her
so yeah you do have to try and the both of you need to be willing. even taking a break is ok imo
Just Do It
By not chasing after it, is friendship also included?
So, it would be best not to talk to her to maintain the friendship?
Also, I didn't ask my friend to talk to her about it. They talked without me knowing, as they also are close. And, recently my friend told me about it.
Just talk to her about it. Sounds so elementary just to know from a friend than from her, face to face.
Hm. Well, it's always important to keep in mind that you can't change what others feel.
In your case as already mentioned, it's best to not chase after her.
To answer your first question though; in a relationship, things can always get better from the bad. Always, if both people try.
Just let her go. She sounds like someone annoying to date via not knowing what she wants. Not liking having a boyfriend=too immature or annoying to date.
Ur just gonna have to let her go if she isnt interested, u cant force someone to like u. If my friends made a mistake they would just apologize but as far as i can tell, you, OP, didnt make a mistake nor did ur friend or crush. Shes just not interested
Or if ur still interested in being her friend, then just tell her