Want to feel better about yourself? Heres how I screwed up
I asked a girl out for coffee today.... I was so nervous when I approached her, my mind went blank and literally all that came out was a "hi my name is herp-a-derp. *awkward pause as she stared as me while i gave her the weakest handshake ever* um.. I... uh.. I've never done this before.. would you um.. like to get coffee sometime?" and she did the little... you know, the smile almost all girls (or everyone) do when they're asked a question they're not quite sure how to answer. Her response: "Sure... When?" and at this point I was just so nervous and already knew that I messed up that my only reply was "uh, idk. whenever you want hurr hurr :B." and so she says "okay! but as friends" and thinking on it now, idk how to feel about that. 1) she's a Mormon, so maybe that's why she specified that, or 2) maybe she has a bf, or 3) that's just bec. we dunno each other all that well, or 4) that's a polite way of her saying she's not interested. Edit: Not that I intended for this to be a date to begin with. However, I was hoping that this could lead to a.. romantic type.. relationship thing.
anyways. Literally that's it. After she said "okay, but as friends." I said "Yeah, sure." which... idk.... idk ugh. IDK. >.< >.< i just walked off like an iDIOT WITHOUT GETTING a NUMBER TO FOLLOW UP AND AT LEAST DECIDE ON A DATE & TIME TO MEET UP. GRR. I AM SO MAD RN, I WANNa SHOOT MYSELF ANd JUST END My LIFE. THIS IS SO AWKWARD. Her lab partner happened to walk out and into the hall while we were talking and she asked her what just happened and I waslike "oh god, no... nonononononono... noooooooooooooooooooooooo" and as we both walked away, I was just cRYING INSIDE AS I FACE PALMED ANd thought to myself "What the FORK DID U JUST DO? IDIOT. SO STUPID. SO DUMB. SMH.... GG LOSER. U MADE IT SO AWKWARD + U DIDN'T GET HER NUMBER + SHE JUST TOlD HER LaB PARTNER WHAT JUST HAPPENED AND CHANCES ARE PLENTY MORE WILL COME TO KNOW TOO.
I just... ugh. I don't even know, man. I [i]iknow[/i] I have no chance now. Do I approach her next time I see her and try to fix things? Try to start over again? Or do I just avoid her and act like it never happened and hope she will too? Irdk what to even do now.
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@Capricious Honestly I think you'll be fine
@fradddd: Sorry, I guess I worded it poorly. I'd like to clarify that what I meant to say is "maybe she has a boyfriend," as I'm not sure if she's single or not. In any case, I asked her out to coffee not an official date, so... idk. Plus, I feel that maybe she would've just said "Sorry, I have a bf" if she really did have a bf or just flat out declined coffee.
@ThotsRUs: Yo, thanks for the encouraging words man. I'm going to try and talk to her again when we have class together to try and start over properly - I think that will be best for the both of us, because I feel like I left a really ad impression of myself on her.
@Duzz: To be honest, I thought so too. I had originally "planned" to ask her out for coffee, or "something else," if she wasn't into coffee. But when I approached her and got nervous, whatever I had in mind just disappeared. In any case, I guess when I speak to her next, I can re-confirm if she's still up for coffee - and if she is - float the idea of something else, if coffee isn't her thing.
All in all, I'm really glad I managed to talk to this girl and ask her girl out for a coffee (I'm still kind of shaking, tbh), as I've wanted to do that for a while now. I've never done this type of thing before, so it was way out of my comfort zone. I just wish I could've been more calm and collected when I went through with it. Now I'm just nervous about re-approaching her next class and striking up a conversation to confirm whether or not she's still interested. I feel that my initial invitation was so poorly executed that she may have said yes just to be polite and will probably end up forgetting I even asked, or she may be hoping that I avoid talking to her about it because of how embarrassing and awkward it was.
2 in the pink 1 in the stink and u should be fine
@WindowLegs: How am I being ignorant? Just curious mostly...
[quote=Duzz]I thought Mormons don't drink coffee? At least that's what my Mormon friend told me.[/quote]
just because we are religious it doesnt mean we have to follow every thing that our creator tells us to do. Where in the book of mormon does it tell us that? stop being so ignorant.
I thought Mormons don't drink coffee? At least that's what my Mormon friend told me.
Yolo, don't say no no
just got act like nothing happened just tell her that you had something going on and it was bad timing and apologize and talk to her like you would a normal friend and move on I find it easiest to talk to girls when im in a place that I feel comfortable in for me that is the pool whenever im there I just never screw up and I come out as smooth when really im not
At least she didn't say no.That has to mean something, right?
dude its okay, most relationships start like that. You have to friend zone them first, and then do the big move
I mean that's life.
the feels are real
At least u didn't put off someone u cared about because u were too scared to confront lyfe
One slip up isn't so bad. Especially when u don't even know this girl
To be fair if it were me I would've just got to nervous, and not even tried to talk. The best case to do is take a deep breath, and just talk like you would normally to friends or family really.
Yeah you're just dumb for asking out a girl who already had a boyfriend.
im crying for u
@LeeKwangSoo: See the issue is... even if she said yes, what are the chances that an actual date and time will be fixed now? By the time next week rolls around (I only see her during our lab class, bec. I don't have any form of contact with her outside of it), she'll probably have forgotten I ever asked her. Further more, I really do feel like maybe she said yes simply to be polite because of how awkward my approach was, even if she wasn't interested.
@natalie: You really think I have a shot and fixing this mess? Right now, I feel as though she thinks I'm a really weird guy and... ugh idek. Maybe she's praying I don't follow up on this next week, or ever.
@AbsymalTorment: Pretty much.
"Okay, but as friends." OP, you got friendzoned in the first 5 seconds.
Well she still agreed to go so I don't see the problem. You're still gonna go for coffee with her, right?
I screw up with socializing all the time. It doesn't get to my head.
In what way would this thread make me feel better about myself? I don't understand.
[quote=Capricious]>.< Rest easy knowing you have never screwed up in such a way when talking to anyone.[/quote]
I've screwed up worse with a guy that I know and love. This is weak.
don't trip. convince yourself that you weren't even fazed by what she said. privately approach her again to arrange a time (apologize for hurrying off, say that you were in a rush, etc), get coffee, and go from there. keep your cool
[quote=Collee]This didn't make me feel better about myself at all.[/quote]
>.< Rest easy knowing you have never screwed up in such a way when talking to anyone.
This didn't make me feel better about myself at all.