Help with my anger issues?
I can't stop the violent thoughts I get when I get angry. It's like there's anger building inside of me and I can't resist the urge to break or hit something.
Fortunately, I haven't done anything like it (from what I can remember). But I feel this issue is going to give me serious problems in the future, like actually hurting someone in public and going to jail for it.
Right now, I normally just hold it in, but I know it's not going to work someday.
Tips?
March 19, 2015
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[quote=iPsychedelicss]Blaze it duhh.[/quote]
yeah just blaze it is easy, you have the most anger management of all people in maplestory doober
use that angry in football or any contact sport ur allowed to hit without getting in trouble lool
Meditate. Go learn martial arts and be the next karate kid, daniel-san.
Blaze it duhh.
having violent thoughts when youre genuinely angry isnt an indicator that you have mental issues.
the most important thing is that you don't act on these impulses and learn to control your anger.
"Right now, I normally just hold it in, but I know it's not going to work someday" sounds like an excuse. Willpower is enough to resist these urges.
Contrary to what most people think, "blowing up" or releasing your anger in the form of violence does not actually get rid of your anger; it makes it worse.
people CHOOSE to be angry. the best solution to fixing your anger issues is to find the source of that anger.
usually, people who are often mad/upset feel that life is unjust towards them. maybe this is the case for you? try to distinguish between real unfair situations and self entitlement.
what i do when im upset/angry is to try to reason the situation out and see what went wrong. this is kinda my way of distracting myself and learning something from the experience at the same time.
there are also better and more productive alternatives to how you respond to anger than simply lashing out on others.
remember.. you dont want to be a prisoner of your own emotions, you want to use your emotions to your advantage.
Start a diary. Write down all the crap that makes you mad. Then punch your diary.
I think I have more of a problem than you. I'm 18 and living with my parents and my mom is so dysfunctional I can't deal with her when she talks to me. She speaks nonsense and expects me to listen to her when she just keeps spouting bullcrap. So one day I just had to vent my anger and punched a door and now there's a hole in it. This happened actually two weeks ago, and it's the first time something like this has happened. So anyway, my point is, you probably manage your anger better than me.
Whenever I get mad at someone while I'm driving, I think to myself "Wow! That guy must have to poop really bad."
talking about it helps. sitting down and watching life pass by helped me too.
Yeah...I used to have pretty bad anger issues and I actually did get into trouble for it. I strongly advise you to either get help or discover the source of what's making you so angry. You won't regret it. I got better by myself as I grew (anger issues were the worst 10-15, now 17). Just do things that make you calm and avoid what makes you mad. Sometimes you just have to go to an isolated place and vent out your anger.
Mb u need to dig deep into the cause. What in particular makes you angry? Maybe you just need a different mindset. Is there a reason to feel angry? Why would u let anger control u? Do u think ur strong just because of ur violent display? Perhaps physically, but def not mentally, at least not at that moment. Don't make it too easy for others to take control of ur feelings.
You might also need to be more philosophical with the way you analyze things. Some things might not actually be what appears to be like. Sometimes, you can still see the good in things even if it appears to be bad on the surface.
If you're not just an edgy teen, go to a psychiatrist.