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appearance does matter but people also have control over how they look, lots of people look "ugly" because they dont care. lots of guys that girls would typically consider unattractive sit on the side of the hallway playing on their nintendo with oil almost dripping off their face from not having taking a shower in several days, I dont blame them if their poor in which that case is very unfortunate, but most of the time its because they dont bother. if you want something you have to work for it you cant just say oh I was born ugly people hate me blah blah, if 0 effort goes in then thats what happens. the actual cases where people are born ugly just from unfortunate genes I feel bad for, and that is why people feel bad for people in those pictures its cause no matter what they do they cant change without major surgery. my input on this, appearance does matter, its just the way people are, judging and there's no changing that, however if you haven't put a single ounce of effort to make yourself look better then the complaints are taken lightly

Well, the face is pure identity and how you take care of yourself..

Someone who would look ugly would probably have an either ugly personality, or just a really lazy person.

Someone who would look like they have good hygiene/fit/rich would obviously get the first look since they take care of themselves,
but then again they could really have an ugly personality, I mean, look at Elliot Rodger...

I don't know, it's more like a gamble in life.

Some people have certain things because they are good at socializing.

Some people have certain things because they are helpful.

Some people have certain things because, well, they... are just interesting?

i voted "no it doesn't matter" just because it was at 0/21 votes now i made it 1/21

Nah.. I kind of disagree. It's true that good looks will get you things easier in life but I have a friend and he's pretty ugly but he gets girls every week when we go out because he's just really social.

As far as physical relationships or encounters are concerned, I'm shallow and would not be able to get it up or enjoy it if there is no attraction whatsoever.

As far as any other type of relationship including friendships go, I'm nice to everyone regardless of how they look. I think as far as friendships are concerned, I'm not nearly as shallow but in the same respect, if I'm friends with a girl that I'm not attracted to, I don't want anything more than the friendship..

Social media is not a good example. People who post on social media can get easily attacked by stupid internet vigilante justice people, which is why people are reluctant to post negative things. This is why you would see more positive comments. And yeah, posting vapid, positive comments is just to make oneself look better. I don't know who tells you this crap, but ive never had anyone say appearance doesn't matter. Appearance doesn't matter completely, but it does matter. You wouldn't date someone who looks like a hobo all the time, but you also wouldn't date someone gorgeous with absolutely no personality.
People dating shouldn't bother you so much. People are attracted to happy people, so just be happy.
When people say confident, I think they just meant outgoing and happy with good self esteem. No one is attracted to overconfident people whether they're attractive or ugly, IMO.

That is why you show ppl your wisdom before your appearance.

To say looks doesn't matter when you just called someone beautiful... yea. I felt like I just lost some brain cells from reading that.

Appearance matters in its own way. Everything matters each to their own. If appearance doesn't matter, then this world would be quite different. I'm just stating the obvious right now.

I also think appearance has certain effects on one's personality and ways of thinking. Not completely (ofc), but only in certain ways. Appearance always tend to be stereotypically associated with certain traits, and many people tend to take that for granted without actually thinking through. How would a child automatically know if a character in a fairy tale movie is an antagonist? Oh, because he/she looks "evil" and/or angry. Oh, right.

A person that might be unattractive to you might be living a more meaningful life than you. Maybe they already have what they wanted in life. So kudos to them. Happiness and content comes in different forms.

Unless if you're exceptionally ugly to the point that you're not even presentable, your appearance will not have an effect on your social life for the majority of the time. It's most likely to be your shyness and shame that's in the way of accomplishing anything. And even if you are just that ugly and ppl always criticize you for it, you can still change that if you wanted to. Do whatever makes you happy.

"Sure, maybe interests and personality matters during the relationship process, but the RELATIONSHIP itself cannot happen until one person is attracted to another. And you have to be attracted to what they look like in order to have interest in them."

I agree that appearance matters but it sounds like you think appearance is everything.

Edit: Actually never mind. You really do have to be interested in their physical appearance first. However life isn't as sad as you think it is. An extremely ugly person to you could be the most angelic figure in another person's eyes. It's all about perspective and tastes.

@usuklolxp: Nothing wrong with it. ^^

@AntiSenpai Kinda how I am in real life. I won't judge them but I won't really approach them myself

I don't judge people on appearance but I know what I'm attracted to.

Your world perspective reeks of high school influence. The real world is far different, most evolve away from that superficial culture. Your experiences years after post graduation will put this ideal to rest. I don't like to seem like an old man because I'm not but I've witnessed a vast transformation of vanities presuming my adult life. That is not the world. That is categorically what we experience as high school. Retrospectively that is the reason my parents neglected my concerns and issues during that time because it was a fleeting experience that wasn't essential to the framework of my life, but it was life for me. It came and passed luckily you're an adult for years much longer. Reading posts like this make me really enjoy the progression in life that I've taken within social circles even if it was due to aging. I hope this helps, but I am wary because I didn't reinforce your perspective nor empathize. Which could be the actions that you seek.

While I agree that physical appearance matters... I don't let that stop me from reaching out to people - I don't look at someone, think to myself, "eh... they're not good looking, I'll just avoid them." y'know? You're going to end up living a very... fulfilling life if you let such shallowness dictate who you maintain social relations with.

I'd like to try and be friends with everyone, so I try and socialize with anyone, regardless of their appearance. It feels nice when you finally manage to talk to someone that you know to be very quiet and reserved, and over the span of a few weeks, you get them to open up more and more, until they're comfortable enough to talk to you as if you're the best of friends. I've met some really amazing people this way.

Looks don't matter...if you're blind.

[quote=9ine]Talk more, be active, be funny and you will see results.
Like on maple who are the most liked? The ones who talk the most and jokes the most. Regardless of looks.[/quote]

This is total bs. The ones that are liked the most ins ms are total Nx hoes and hene hoes. ALWAYS.

Talk more, be active, be funny and you will see results.
Like on maple who are the most liked? The ones who talk the most and jokes the most. Regardless of looks.

@ExitEnter Exactly. Those girls don't get any attention or friends at all because other guys are not interested in them at all. Therefore living a much duller life.

I feel like girls care much more about appearance of others.

im a senior in hs and there are plenty of guys who are ugly but still popular around school.

but there are zero popular girls who are ugly.

I see girls who are nice and kind but because they are not pretty, they really don't have any friends.

@DragonBandit Pretty much every single person on Facebook.

It matters idk who told you it doesn't. They are full of it. Everyone knows it does.