How to communicate the message that.
I'm not interested in someone? I have a friend, who is a boy, who is a grade above me and I'm really getting the vibes that he might have a crush on me. We have been friends for a few months and we used to talk a lot until I started talking to him less on purpose so that I wouldn't give him ideas. Well, recently he texted me and just started the kind of conversation where you have to reply or else you feel bad (or maybe it's just me). I don't dislike him, but I really hate giving him hope, and then if he actually does turn out to like me, rejecting him.
So basically how do I NICELY communicate the message that I am not interested in him in that kind of way? Thanks for the help
April 4, 2014
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just tell him you don't like him and if he tries to pull emotionally manipulative bull stop being friends with him at all
Go on a "date" with him then talk about a guy you like. If you both know the guy, it's better because you can ask him if he thinks the other guy is interested in you. He should get the hint. I know I did i hated 8th grade after that. high school, however, has dubbed me the suave.
Let us take a moment for our brother in the friend zone.
Tell him you're in love with a celebrity.
Your best bet is to say IF he confesses to you is: "I'm sorry I'm not into you like that but is it okay if we stay friends?" Hell you can even be best friends
But for now just keep hangin' out with him. If he confesses say what I said above (or say what someone else said) and if he doesn't just continue hangin' out with him! Hope this helps!
Tell him you've been noticing that he's getting unusually closer and that you aren't exactly interested in a relationship with him and would much rather remain friends instead.
If not then tell him you're a lesbian.
[quote=muffinsx]Like Omgawh mang, like like how did you like figure that like out? Far outttt.[/quote]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_03QSlEGLec
@metaghost4: But was it really "that" easy? I mean come on, like come on...
[quote=metaghost4]"Hey (guy's name) I'm sorry but I don't like you let's just be friends."[/quote]
Like Omgawh mang, like like how did you like figure that like out? Far outttt.
Stop being such a scaredy cat, keep talking to him, but if he asks you out then just tell him you're not interested. If he feels that you were leading him on even though you weren't sending those type of messages then just tell him you're sorry but that you weren't trying to lead him on. And if he calls you stupid because to him you were leading him on then the guy clearly needs to learn a few more lessons about relationships.
Whoa, you freaked me out there for a second.
I am to your guy friend as you are to the love of my life (in my situation). Get what I'm saying? I'm in your guy's position, but luckily the love of my life is talking to me more and more and stuff, and she appears to like me.
Gonna go make a thread asking if she likes me.
very rarely would a guy text a girl if he's not interested so I think he kind of likes you at least.
NEVER reciprocate flirting; even one time is enough to get his hopes up.
Start to mention another dude you like to him.
That will give him the message he has no shot with you. pfffft.
[quote=MrsAugustRain]If I was the guy friend, I probably wouldn't want to be your friend after you kind of just dropped off the face of the planet and started ignoring me/stopped initiating conversation. That to me, is worse than being direct with someone. That's just like purposefully putting salt on a wound, I would not want to be your friend 0/10 friendship skills.[/quote]
oh, I don't mean totally ignore him. That would be really mean lol! What I meant was dismiss the thought that he might like me.
Lol thanks for the advice, everyone. I don't want to be too direct though. I guess I'll just sorta ignore the vibes and hope he just considers me a friend.
If you directly tell him you're not interested in him, he's probably going to try to pull damage control over his ego and act like he doesn't know why you'd come out and say something like that. So even though it's the clearest way to shut him down, it's not the best thing to do.
What you want to do is find a way when you're having a conversation with him to bring up a guy you have a crush on (and make it as clear as you can without being too explicit that it's not him) and he should get the idea. This way you make it clear to him you're not interested in him and you're able to pretend to be clueless about any hints he's dropped.
"i'm just not that into you"
@plenair the whole point is solving a problem before it happens. It's just unneeded drama having to deal with people who like you but you don't like back. If the person wants to stop being friends cause you were honest with them, then they weren't really your friend to begin with. They just wanted to get into your pants.
[quote=metaghost4]"Hey (guy's name) I'm sorry but I don't like you let's just be friends."[/quote]
you must have got tons of that
uh,,, he hasn't told you that he likes you so gurl, dont get ahead of yo self k?loljk
if he does confess just say ''I just want to stay friends''. Why would you lie and make up excuses? cut the crap and tell him straight foward.
UNLESS ---> you want to play around lol. Just be like: ill think about it then, post it on his facebook wall saying no hahaha
What's your number? I'll tell him for you.
kiss a girl in front of him.
Post the message gurrrl