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[quote=Wanton]Im atheist. I generall dont care about my partner's religion however i wouldnt marry someone who's religion was of hate and idk it was a cult or something.im fine as long as rhey dont try to convert me.[/quote]

oooh thats hawt...

i dont take religion into consideration when dating someone, more of their values? after a few months of me dating my current bf we had a convo about religion and it turns out we pretty much feel the same way which is cool b/c they arent really traditional beliefs. his sister is dating a guy that takes their religion v seriously and it works for them because its impotrant to both of them and they share the same values. otoh my mom + bro arent even FRIENDS w non christians lmao (except my uncle but we dont talk abt that...)

Well, it's just flat out statistically unlikely that I'd find a girl who isn't Christian around here. 90% of the people are white and would claim to be Christian, most of the others are Mexican (Catholics) or black (Christians/Catholics).

But no, unless their religion gets in the way of my every day life I wouldn't care. Then again, I quit a police academy just because they would've made me cut my hair, so sometimes little things can determine my decisions.

Partner I love > religion

As long as their religion doesn't affect my day-to-day life heavily, I'm not trippn

Love is a religion

No, I would not do that.
I would happily convert to her religion or have her ditch it instead. Works for me either way.

My mom is Christian and she married an atheist. My dad's pretty chill about my mom wanting her children to be Christian so I think it'd be pretty sweet if I had a husband like that too. Not saying that I wish my husband was an atheist who's open to it, but both ways are fine.

Would you take religion so far as to not allow yourself to date-marry someone not of your own religion? (Yes) Do you think it's silly if someone would do that? (No)
What would you do if you had to choose between religion and a partner that you loved? (Hopefully fall in love with someone who was of my religion...)

Despite my religion's strict stance on the matter, I'd rather follow my own personal beliefs than what the group might say.
Considering that I'm not intensely religious and if I ever meet someone I know I will love outside of the religion, I would go for it.
My personal happiness matters more than the people that are part of my religion.

I'm fine with a partner's religion as long as they aren't pushy/judgemental when it comes to others'.
However, you don't come across many strict religious gays... at least I haven't.

The reason why dating is considered bad is because it can end up being broken up easily, than can a marriage be. And this system of not dating someone in religion is mostly to protect the girls virginity. A girl who already had sex with someone but then later divorced are not women I want, not what most people will want.

Girls are much more affected from brake ups compared to male. As girls get older its harder for them to make babies and they will look worse. Guys can still make babies with younger women and still can marry when they are old. It's to defend the girls.

People saying love, yes love is good, but you can love him/her after marriage right?

Catholic here

I don't really care what religion my significant other is

What is [b]very[/b] important to me, is that we're on the same level of spirituality. Took me a while to find that, but it's a huge boost to my relationship imo because we're on the same plane and it's very easy for us to help each other

I don't care about what religion they follow. If the person tries to convert me, I'm out of that relationship.

Hard for me to say. I think that if they wanted to raise children as <religion>, it would probably be a deal breaker for me.

i would date a person of another religion but i would heavily reconsider this when marriage is involve. i wouldnt change my religion to continue a relationship.

I've witness this happening around me. I think it's really stupid to allow religion to become a barrier to the love between people. Forcing someone to believe in an entity for the sake of being with the one they supposedly love is so wrong. I won't allow that to happen. It's not what religion they follow but the good in their heart. I won't "pretend" to follow a religion just cuz I wanna be with some girl. Screw that.

ive started to not care.

Quite frankly I'm not attracted to intensely religious people. To the point where it dictates how they act and such, as I would consider it a part of their personality. I respect that they're devoted to their religion, but it's not my cup of tea.

I'm not going to be heading to church with them (Or get married in one), not going to talk about god and how he sticks his hand into everything, etc. I'm Buddhist, but it's more of a way of thinking for me than a way of life. I never really cared for going to temple with my parents when I was younger, the chanting and books never had any impact on me, and neither did the giant statues. I don't go around telling people to achieve inner peace and understanding and not cause any suffering or violence, nor do I want to.

@ everything above, religious threads are a mess... i don't wanna read all of that. yikes

anyway i believe that religion shouldn't interfere with your love life. no matter how loyal you are to your beliefs, don't let it get in your way. if you love someone based on their sexuality or something don't let christianity make you dump them, etc. follow your heart

Really interesting answers guys. Here's another scenario-
Would you be willing to join into a religion (mainly assuming you haven't been involved in one prior) to continue a relationship with your significant other? If you really cared for the person would you still do it, is it wrong?

I'm a Christian but when I voice my opinion I'm sure there are other Christians from around the world who would have a different view.

As someone mentioned above, the bible does talk about not being yoked to an unbeliever and I think this is wise advice for me as I think about who I date and marry. This isn't written out of hate for those who don't believe in God, in fact I think it shows how God values love and unity within all families. Think about this in practical terms in a similar context.
If you married someone who had different plans for the future than you, wouldn't it be tough? The husband says I want to remain living in Australia and raise our kids here whilst the wife is ready to spend the rest of her life teaching English to the poor and needy in Africa. As single individuals this is how they've been planning to live out their future during married life but they can't do both because neither wants to budge. The husband can't understand why her wife would want to move away from such a comfortable life and the wife can't understand why her husband isn't willing.
When people have different motivations and end goals, relationships can really suffer. Of course all couples have to face points in their relationship where they don't agree but when you are called to be a Christian and live as one, the person you love the most isn't your spouse or even your children, it's God. I don't think many guys would understand the reason behind my actions and why I can't put them first in everything. A relationship like this would probably end in the Christian no longer living as a believer in God but there have been marriages that made it through too.
You also have to consider your children as well. If you had the sort of knowledge that could save someone's life you'd share it with others and that definitely includes your spouse and kids because that's what the good news about Jesus is. But how will your kids know that they need saving or how to live their lives if only one parent was a Christian and the other was an atheist or of another religion? It'd confuse them, they might become apathetic or saddened that one of their parents isn't going to be spending eternity with them. Kids need parents to model and provide them with a healthy environment to grow up in. They can't do this when they're always disagreeing with you on how things are too be done around the home.
With these points in mind why would you want to cause unnecessary pain and conflict between you, your spouse and children?

I'm atheist. I don't really care if my partner is religious, so long as they don't force it on me and as long as their religion of choice isn't anything too radical.

from a Christian pov (not that strong tho)
Would you take religion so far as to not allow yourself to date-marry someone not of your own religion? according to the bible, i think we are advised (according to the bible?) not to date non Christians or be in relationships with them
Do you think it's silly if someone would do that? uhmm tbh, alot of people who are Christians from my school actually do date non Christians (even the strong ones). Now in saying that, our current society vs the biblical world, it would be perceived as ludicrous decision to object from dating a non Christian just because, But it does take a very strong individual to decline a relationship due to religious reasons
What would you do if you had to choose between religion and a partner that you loved? for me, I wouldn't care, my leader made an analogy to dating a non Christian. He said you standing on a chair, and the non Christian is on the floor, now what's harder, pulling them up from the floor and them pulling you down (in terms of staying strong in faith).

Atheist here.

I don't care about religions and I don't believe in them.
I'm fine if any girl I will go with in the future believes in a god, I will respect that.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Im atheist. I generall dont care about my partner's religion however i wouldnt marry someone who's religion was of hate and idk it was a cult or something.im fine as long as rhey dont try to convert me.

As long as they don't do something stupid because of their religion, then I'm fine.
Stuff like sacrificing me or other family members for Jesus.

Alot of girls in my city would probably reconsider dating me if they found out I was an atheist.

I don't care what religion they are as long as they don't force it down my throat I'm fine.