[quote=Fusionpressure]*raises hand* Me! I suffer from mild depression but I tend to be a happy person in general. I just sometimes have a lapse where I tend to sulk every now and then. And in general I tend to be happier when I'm alone as supposed to doing groupish stuff like going to concerts/downtown/movies/etc.[/quote]
Exercise helps with depression because it releases endorphins which make you feel good. Well that is sad. I tend to be more susceptible to depression when I lack social support. Do you know what caused your depression? Depression is a preventable mental illness. There has to be a reason or reasons for why you are mildly depressed. You weren't born with depression. It's not a genetic disorder...although if your one of parents or family members (grandparents, etc) have had depression, you are more likely to get depression. Depression is basically a chemical imbalance in the brain. You'll beat it if you solve your problems, think positively, exercise, go to therapy if needed. I know how you feel. I've been there before when I was depressed, I wanted to be alone, but I wasn't happy.
[quote=metaghost4]@Plenair: Please show me a happy depressed person.[/quote]
*raises hand* Me! I suffer from mild depression but I tend to be a happy person in general. I just sometimes have a lapse where I tend to sulk every now and then. And in general I tend to be happier when I'm alone as supposed to doing groupish stuff like going to concerts/downtown/movies/etc.
@metaghost4: yeah, but you need to give effort. Don't whine about your unfortunate events. Instead learn from them and move on with life. Think positively. Be optimistic, but consider the negatives as well. The world isn't black and white you know.
[quote=Laker1294]Don't give up hope if you get rejected. Rejection is a part of life. Be confident and give effort. You won't be forever alone unless you give up. Everyone has numerous potential partners believe it or not. You could google it. It's backed by psychology. I'm female and I have been rejected before so I know how it feels and I can relate. I'm also not ugly.[/quote]
Just drop it off guys, this kid is too messed up, he's thinking that being all lonely and depressed is cool, you will not get people attention and especially girls this way, stop being a little whiney (idk how its spells but fuark this ) ***, and man the fuark up, stop obssess about every * female , ive been on basil years now, and every time a girl post a picture or say something pervy you go stalk mode , you just don't seem to let them out , you stalk them like a sicko and you harrass them, you are a ** big pervert, that why you don't seem to get girl, and about you being all emotional and , yeah lol, you just wanna hit them girls *** , you view them a sexual objects , and don't go on me "no i am not", stop obssessing about every **** female, stop being a *** a man up, and everything will go well, you are a very sick person in fact, you should really seek some professional attention. sorry about my bad english, but if you don't like it **** you. ah and ye, about @skyenets (right?) , she is a girl and has more balls than you'll ever have , she is brave and is not a whiney little **, she accepted what she was and didn't tried to get people attention or sympathy over this, she is a very courageous girl, and at the moment you knew she was a girl, you started to harass her, you man, you are not the victime, you are the **** probleme, and if you don't accept it , you will ALWAYS be all messed up in your mind... ill prolly get banned, but i had to say this to you, you'll just ignore everyone advice and you'll continue being a sicko, that's your choice, but stop spreading you sh*** everywhere in basil...
[quote=metaghost4]@icemage11: There's one girl I'm willing to ask out in the future, but if she declines me then I'm done. I would imagine life would be easier accepting eternal solitude rather than believing there's a potential partner out there for me and be dependent on time to have her come to me.[/quote]
Don't give up hope if you get rejected. Rejection is a part of life. Be confident and give effort. You won't be forever alone unless you give up. Everyone has numerous potential partners believe it or not. You could google it. It's backed by psychology. I'm female and I have been rejected before so I know how it feels and I can relate. I'm also not ugly.
@metaghost4 I'm sure you're very happy, but that's worthless to you right now. I'm telling you to stop that. I'm telling you to take yourself seriously. Stop being happy, start paying attention to yourself, and maybe something good will happen.
[quote=metaghost4]@icemage11: But if I learn how to be happy alone, I don't need to be optimistic! I don't need to believe that I'll find anyone because I'm already happy without them! And if I bump into that special girl anyways, then so be it! It's a win-win situation for me and I don't understand why you all disagree with it.[/quote]
Rather, don't you think you're just lying to yourself? That is to say, you seem to think that everything will go well for you if you retreat into your own, very personal world, where the rules make sense and the monsters are all locked outside. It's kind of like the universe stops at the edge of your yard. It's p great, because it means nothing has to be your fault. You can't pursue a relationship with other women, because your feelings are unrequited, so there's nothing you can do. You can't make friends with your fellow interns, because they're all shallow and looking to use you as a connection for personal gain. It's fine though, because as long as you're able to snag yourself a stable future as a computer scientist, you have worth as a human being! But look here - it's come to the point where you have to rationalize your own failings on Basil. "I have to love myself no matter what I'm like." "This is me - this is who I am - so what can I do?". "I'm already happy without them!"
That's not good enough, you son of a gun. You can't call someone "happy" just because he thinks he is. Take from this what you will. I don't have any answers for you.
Tfw still in love with qt3.14 Korean ex who lives across the country. Tfw still in love with girl who used you. Tfw still in love with girl who says she doesn't love you anymore. Tfw you don't believe her when she says she doesn't love you anymore. Tfw you still think you're going to end up with this girl. Tfw almost learned Korean to impress her and her family. Tfw she doesn't let you forget about her. Tfw she texts you randomly every few months whenever you try to end things for good as if she doesn't want you to forget about her because she still loves you. Tfw she always seems to fall in love with me again when we start talking again. Tfw want to make it work because you know you'll never love someone as much as her. Tfw you'll never be able to give any other girl as much as you gave this girl because you don't want to get destroyed again. Tfw might see her this month. Tfw she's still as great as the day I met her. Tfw dated 4 girls in the time being broken up with her throughout the years and they were not even remotely close as great as her. Tfw everyone says I can do better but I don't want to do better because she's perfectly imperfect. Tfw always thinking about her, wondering if she found someone else and that random text isn't going to come. Tfw 16 year old Korean girl I've never met destroyed my love life. Tfw I don't know what I'd do if she moved on for good.
@metaghost4 I'm not trying to pester you about it, it's just every time I see you post about relationships you seem very... down about it. And because you mention things like that on basil so often, it seems like you could use some help. So I was just trying to give a little help, as I've been there before myself.
I've never seen @Skyenets mention anything about relationships before and she doesn't seem down on herself. She only said she doesn't want a relationship, which sounds like more of a choice than your situation.
@metaghost4: I agree, you should learn to be happy being alone first. But that doesn't mean you can't be optimistic about being with the right person. Don't think of it as you have to actively "find" someone, but rather let it happen naturally.
I think there are 3 different levels: 1) the super optimistic: "I KNOW I'll find someone for me in the future". I get that you don't want to be this person because you might get disappointed. 2) the average: "I don't know if I'll find someone for me, but I'm not afraid to try and I know that I'll be happy with my life even if I don't find her." IMO this is the best attitude to have. 3) Then there's you. "I know I won't find anyone so I'm just gonna give up and be forever alone rather than get hurt." I don't think you'll be happy with such a negative attitude.
Because I was basically an alcoholic that did way too many drugs. Srs, after a while, you just stop caring about things like "relationships" or "girls" and all you want is to get more to drink or some drug to take. Thankfully I decided to take a break and sort my life out, but that basically means that you can't focus on girls.
@metaghost4: Man, you are so damaged beyond belief. First of all, don't live your life "hoping" one day you'll magically find a girl that falls in love with you and live happily ever after. Life isn't like the movies. Meet new people, talk to them, develop friendships and if those friendships turn into something more that's great. If not then you'll have a good friend by your side. You don't have to date only 1 girl in your life you know. Put yourself out there and LIVE. You sound like one of those people that is too scared to leave their house because they know they'll be safe inside instead of facing the unknown potential dangers of the outside world. Pretty pathetic.
With that attitude of yours, I wish you good luck in your dating life bro. There's not much that the people of basil can do to help you.
@metaghost4: You need to have confidence. Also stop thinking that there's only 1 girl for you out there and if she says no then you'll be single for life. You're in your 20s so your adult life is just getting started and you'll be meeting tons of people in the future. It just hasn't happened yet but in the meantime you should strive to be a good person for YOURSELF, not turn into a perfect guy for a girl. Some girl is just going to walk all over you because you're a doormat with no self-confidence and I can see you holding onto a girl for dear life if she's your girlfriend. That type of behaviour is just suffocating and she won't have respect for you because you don't have respect for yourself.
@metaghost4 Being down as often as you sound is a big problem, because it's unattractive. Don't get me wrong, there's all sorts of things wrong with too much confidence, but at least try to have a respectable level of it. Everybody falls. Being down about anything for an extended period of time shows that you're not emotionally strong enough to pick yourself up.
[quote=metaghost4]It's like the same thing with @skyenets (except the physical desire and attraction will always be there for the general female population) but you don't see basiler giving her any therapy. [/quote]
You've been on my ass about it ever since I mentioned that I don't want a relationship. You tried to "therapy" me and ever since that thread you have been making bad jokes about it to the point that it's borderline harassment. Now someone else is doing it to you and you have a problem with it.
@metaghost4: Urgh i cbf finding it, but i told you that you had to change to a better version of yourself. to become someone better. in that thread you told me that you shouldn't change for other people, that they should like you for who you are. If someone were to like a lazy beta whiner i'd be surprised. I'm sorry for being a prick but it's the truth. I've been on this site for god knows how many years, and that's the impression i have of you after all that time. You have to pick urself up and improve yourself in any and everyway possible. Don't get disheartened and give up on life after being rejected. just keep improving yourself. Man it's 7am i haven't slept. my final word of advice is, if u dont improve yourself, nothing will change.
[quote=ishottedsnow2]just cause of lack of replies, why? wats wong?[/quote] social situations = LOLOLOL nope T_T it's fine though, there's nothing outstandingly wrong about it.
[quote=metaghost4]@icemage11: There's one girl I'm willing to ask out in the future, but if she declines me then I'm done. I would imagine life would be easier accepting eternal solitude rather than believing there's a potential partner out there for me and be dependent on time to have her come to me.[/quote]
I think just about everyone on basil gets on you about that Lisa girl, so I'll leave that alone. But they say there will be 100 "no's" before you hear that "yes" that will change your life. So don't give up just because a few didn't work out. You keep trying with the mindset that you will find "her" and when you do, all of the crap you put up with before then, will have all been worth it. Because it won't just fall into your lap, you have to make an effort to find it and not let things pass you by.
Of course none of this will mean anything if you continue being down about it, so it's up to you whether you want to start living happy or continue thinking solitude is your only option if you can't have that [i]one[/i]. I can't make you see what's out there, you have to see it for yourself.
@metaghost4: Your attitude is the reason why you're not able to find a girlfriend. You frequently complain about not being able to find a girlfriend but in the last thread i spoke to you about this, you were unwilling to change yourself for her. There's obviously a problem here.
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hey guys whats going on in this thread?
i'm straight
and the guys who have been interested in me i reject
[quote=Fusionpressure]*raises hand* Me! I suffer from mild depression but I tend to be a happy person in general. I just sometimes have a lapse where I tend to sulk every now and then. And in general I tend to be happier when I'm alone as supposed to doing groupish stuff like going to concerts/downtown/movies/etc.[/quote]
Exercise helps with depression because it releases endorphins which make you feel good. Well that is sad. I tend to be more susceptible to depression when I lack social support. Do you know what caused your depression? Depression is a preventable mental illness. There has to be a reason or reasons for why you are mildly depressed. You weren't born with depression. It's not a genetic disorder...although if your one of parents or family members (grandparents, etc) have had depression, you are more likely to get depression. Depression is basically a chemical imbalance in the brain. You'll beat it if you solve your problems, think positively, exercise, go to therapy if needed. I know how you feel. I've been there before when I was depressed, I wanted to be alone, but I wasn't happy.
@metaghost4: Now, that would be something to see.
Anyone? .. maybe a Bipolar person? I donno, I think that would be the closest you could possibly get.
[quote=metaghost4]@Plenair: Please show me a happy depressed person.[/quote]
*raises hand* Me! I suffer from mild depression but I tend to be a happy person in general. I just sometimes have a lapse where I tend to sulk every now and then. And in general I tend to be happier when I'm alone as supposed to doing groupish stuff like going to concerts/downtown/movies/etc.
@metaghost4: yeah, but you need to give effort. Don't whine about your unfortunate events. Instead learn from them and move on with life. Think positively. Be optimistic, but consider the negatives as well. The world isn't black and white you know.
Cause she got a boyfriend, he happens to be my friend. But she'll be mine soon.
But I actually do have a girlfriend... For over a year now.
Lack of opportunities to meet a lot of girls, and i'm awkward a bit. FML
[quote=Laker1294]Don't give up hope if you get rejected. Rejection is a part of life. Be confident and give effort. You won't be forever alone unless you give up. Everyone has numerous potential partners believe it or not. You could google it. It's backed by psychology. I'm female and I have been rejected before so I know how it feels and I can relate. I'm also not ugly.[/quote]
Just drop it off guys, this kid is too messed up, he's thinking that being all lonely and depressed is cool, you will not get people attention and especially girls this way, stop being a little whiney (idk how its spells but fuark this ) ***, and man the fuark up, stop obssess about every * female , ive been on basil years now, and every time a girl post a picture or say something pervy you go stalk mode , you just don't seem to let them out , you stalk them like a sicko and you harrass them, you are a ** big pervert, that why you don't seem to get girl, and about you being all emotional and , yeah lol, you just wanna hit them girls *** , you view them a sexual objects , and don't go on me "no i am not", stop obssessing about every **** female, stop being a *** a man up, and everything will go well, you are a very sick person in fact, you should really seek some professional attention.
sorry about my bad english, but if you don't like it **** you.
ah and ye, about @skyenets (right?) , she is a girl and has more balls than you'll ever have , she is brave and is not a whiney little **, she accepted what she was and didn't tried to get people attention or sympathy over this, she is a very courageous girl, and at the moment you knew she was a girl, you started to harass her, you man, you are not the victime, you are the **** probleme, and if you don't accept it , you will ALWAYS be all messed up in your mind...
ill prolly get banned, but i had to say this to you, you'll just ignore everyone advice and you'll continue being a sicko, that's your choice, but stop spreading you sh*** everywhere in basil...
i dont want one
@Twerkable: huehue. If you think so.
[quote=metaghost4]@icemage11: There's one girl I'm willing to ask out in the future, but if she declines me then I'm done. I would imagine life would be easier accepting eternal solitude rather than believing there's a potential partner out there for me and be dependent on time to have her come to me.[/quote]
Don't give up hope if you get rejected. Rejection is a part of life. Be confident and give effort. You won't be forever alone unless you give up. Everyone has numerous potential partners believe it or not. You could google it. It's backed by psychology. I'm female and I have been rejected before so I know how it feels and I can relate. I'm also not ugly.
@metaghost4 I'm sure you're very happy, but that's worthless to you right now. I'm telling you to stop that. I'm telling you to take yourself seriously. Stop being happy, start paying attention to yourself, and maybe something good will happen.
[quote=metaghost4]@icemage11: But if I learn how to be happy alone, I don't need to be optimistic! I don't need to believe that I'll find anyone because I'm already happy without them! And if I bump into that special girl anyways, then so be it! It's a win-win situation for me and I don't understand why you all disagree with it.[/quote]
Rather, don't you think you're just lying to yourself? That is to say, you seem to think that everything will go well for you if you retreat into your own, very personal world, where the rules make sense and the monsters are all locked outside. It's kind of like the universe stops at the edge of your yard. It's p great, because it means nothing has to be your fault. You can't pursue a relationship with other women, because your feelings are unrequited, so there's nothing you can do. You can't make friends with your fellow interns, because they're all shallow and looking to use you as a connection for personal gain. It's fine though, because as long as you're able to snag yourself a stable future as a computer scientist, you have worth as a human being! But look here - it's come to the point where you have to rationalize your own failings on Basil. "I have to love myself no matter what I'm like." "This is me - this is who I am - so what can I do?". "I'm already happy without them!"
That's not good enough, you son of a gun. You can't call someone "happy" just because he thinks he is. Take from this what you will. I don't have any answers for you.
@ishottedsnow2 because i am a female
i don't like coming too close in contact
with other girls, plus boys are so much more attractive <3
@Twerkable: How do you know. Have you tried before?
@metaghost4: Forcing your own opinion down onto others is not giving advice. That's being a tool.
[quote=icemage11]@Ritopls: what's tfw?[/quote]
Urban dictionary says tfw= That feel when
@Ritopls: what's tfw?
@ishottedsnow2 maybe because i'm not attracted to females? o-o
i could never find the same gender attractive...
Tfw still in love with qt3.14 Korean ex who lives across the country.
Tfw still in love with girl who used you.
Tfw still in love with girl who says she doesn't love you anymore.
Tfw you don't believe her when she says she doesn't love you anymore.
Tfw you still think you're going to end up with this girl.
Tfw almost learned Korean to impress her and her family.
Tfw she doesn't let you forget about her.
Tfw she texts you randomly every few months whenever you try to end things for good as if she doesn't want you to forget about her because she still loves you.
Tfw she always seems to fall in love with me again when we start talking again.
Tfw want to make it work because you know you'll never love someone as much as her.
Tfw you'll never be able to give any other girl as much as you gave this girl because you don't want to get destroyed again.
Tfw might see her this month.
Tfw she's still as great as the day I met her.
Tfw dated 4 girls in the time being broken up with her throughout the years and they were not even remotely close as great as her.
Tfw everyone says I can do better but I don't want to do better because she's perfectly imperfect.
Tfw always thinking about her, wondering if she found someone else and that random text isn't going to come.
Tfw 16 year old Korean girl I've never met destroyed my love life.
Tfw I don't know what I'd do if she moved on for good.
Two is greater than one. Plus I am scared of commitment.
Busy with school and would prefer to focus on the radiography machines so I can graduate
I really don't know.
Well, I guess cause I never asked anyone out.
But I don't know if anyone likes me back.
because i am a bad person at heart
@metaghost4 I'm not trying to pester you about it, it's just every time I see you post about relationships you seem very... down about it. And because you mention things like that on basil so often, it seems like you could use some help. So I was just trying to give a little help, as I've been there before myself.
I've never seen @Skyenets mention anything about relationships before and she doesn't seem down on herself. She only said she doesn't want a relationship, which sounds like more of a choice than your situation.
@metaghost4: I agree, you should learn to be happy being alone first. But that doesn't mean you can't be optimistic about being with the right person. Don't think of it as you have to actively "find" someone, but rather let it happen naturally.
I think there are 3 different levels:
1) the super optimistic: "I KNOW I'll find someone for me in the future". I get that you don't want to be this person because you might get disappointed.
2) the average: "I don't know if I'll find someone for me, but I'm not afraid to try and I know that I'll be happy with my life even if I don't find her." IMO this is the best attitude to have.
3) Then there's you. "I know I won't find anyone so I'm just gonna give up and be forever alone rather than get hurt." I don't think you'll be happy with such a negative attitude.
Because I was basically an alcoholic that did way too many drugs. Srs, after a while, you just stop caring about things like "relationships" or "girls" and all you want is to get more to drink or some drug to take. Thankfully I decided to take a break and sort my life out, but that basically means that you can't focus on girls.
A little too much of a burden especially those who just want money.
because i never forwarded one of those chain messages
Finding a gf isn't one of my priorities.
However if a chance comes, I'll take it or not based on how I'm attracted to them
cause all i do is sleep a lot and do nothing... girls usually gravitate themselves towards where the fun is and im boring so yea...
because i'm too sexy for my shirt
Because 7th grade is the worst time to have a relationship
@metaghost4: Man, you are so damaged beyond belief. First of all, don't live your life "hoping" one day you'll magically find a girl that falls in love with you and live happily ever after. Life isn't like the movies. Meet new people, talk to them, develop friendships and if those friendships turn into something more that's great. If not then you'll have a good friend by your side. You don't have to date only 1 girl in your life you know. Put yourself out there and LIVE. You sound like one of those people that is too scared to leave their house because they know they'll be safe inside instead of facing the unknown potential dangers of the outside world. Pretty pathetic.
With that attitude of yours, I wish you good luck in your dating life bro. There's not much that the people of basil can do to help you.
@metaghost4: You need to have confidence. Also stop thinking that there's only 1 girl for you out there and if she says no then you'll be single for life. You're in your 20s so your adult life is just getting started and you'll be meeting tons of people in the future. It just hasn't happened yet but in the meantime you should strive to be a good person for YOURSELF, not turn into a perfect guy for a girl. Some girl is just going to walk all over you because you're a doormat with no self-confidence and I can see you holding onto a girl for dear life if she's your girlfriend. That type of behaviour is just suffocating and she won't have respect for you because you don't have respect for yourself.
@metaghost4 Being down as often as you sound is a big problem, because it's unattractive. Don't get me wrong, there's all sorts of things wrong with too much confidence, but at least try to have a respectable level of it. Everybody falls. Being down about anything for an extended period of time shows that you're not emotionally strong enough to pick yourself up.
i have mai waifu
[quote=metaghost4]It's like the same thing with @skyenets (except the physical desire and attraction will always be there for the general female population) but you don't see basiler giving her any therapy. [/quote]
You've been on my ass about it ever since I mentioned that I don't want a relationship. You tried to "therapy" me and ever since that thread you have been making bad jokes about it to the point that it's borderline harassment. Now someone else is doing it to you and you have a problem with it.
Hypocrite.
god i hate relationships
@metaghost4: Urgh i cbf finding it, but i told you that you had to change to a better version of yourself. to become someone better. in that thread you told me that you shouldn't change for other people, that they should like you for who you are. If someone were to like a lazy beta whiner i'd be surprised. I'm sorry for being a prick but it's the truth. I've been on this site for god knows how many years, and that's the impression i have of you after all that time. You have to pick urself up and improve yourself in any and everyway possible. Don't get disheartened and give up on life after being rejected. just keep improving yourself. Man it's 7am i haven't slept. my final word of advice is, if u dont improve yourself, nothing will change.
Because I'm straight. And I have a boyfriend.
[quote=ishottedsnow2]just cause of lack of replies, why? wats wong?[/quote]
social situations = LOLOLOL nope
T_T
it's fine though, there's nothing outstandingly wrong about it.
[quote=metaghost4]@icemage11: There's one girl I'm willing to ask out in the future, but if she declines me then I'm done. I would imagine life would be easier accepting eternal solitude rather than believing there's a potential partner out there for me and be dependent on time to have her come to me.[/quote]
I think just about everyone on basil gets on you about that Lisa girl, so I'll leave that alone. But they say there will be 100 "no's" before you hear that "yes" that will change your life. So don't give up just because a few didn't work out. You keep trying with the mindset that you will find "her" and when you do, all of the crap you put up with before then, will have all been worth it. Because it won't just fall into your lap, you have to make an effort to find it and not let things pass you by.
Of course none of this will mean anything if you continue being down about it, so it's up to you whether you want to start living happy or continue thinking solitude is your only option if you can't have that [i]one[/i]. I can't make you see what's out there, you have to see it for yourself.
@metaghost4: Your attitude is the reason why you're not able to find a girlfriend. You frequently complain about not being able to find a girlfriend but in the last thread i spoke to you about this, you were unwilling to change yourself for her. There's obviously a problem here.
@metaghost4: man that attitude. but whatever do what u want.
@Redefined: what he said is very true.
[quote=metaghost4]Because never in my life has there been mutual feelings between me and a girl.[/quote]
there there. you'll find someone eventually. (I bet you've heard this a hundred times before but it's true!)
@ishottedsnow2
Because I've been waiting for you all this time <3
@LuckyNinja: that's something u should think about
@natalie: you're mean.