@ThotsRUs: I suck at giving tips like this because it's different for every person. It's sort of the idea that what works for me has to work for you. That's never how it works, at least with how things have gone in my past. I guess the main thing in my post was the first point where she may actually like shy guys.
I personally had the courage to just do it and it worked out. Now obviously I may be the 1% in this situation and I am sure I am because most people do have fears about rejection and simply put, they just don't want the idea of rejection always floating around.
Getting women is like fishing. Every fish is different. Certain fish like certain baits. If you throw the wrong bait out, you won't get the fish. But if you throw the right bait out, then you will get the fish you want. Just like with women. Some women are attracted to certain things while others aren't. If you approach a woman the wrong way, you will lose her. But if you approach her the right way, you will get her interested. The key is just understanding what type of girl she is so you know how to attract her.
Pick up a pencil when they drop it or lend them an umbrella when it's raining and they'll instantly fall for you and want you inside them, it's foolproof and works everytime
[quote=demonicrack]@Anthorix Honestly, something about their personality seems off. I think my brain just thinks of them as the people who would take in the guy, then feel they have complete control because the guy would be too shy to do anything.[/quote]
Ah, but that type of personality would also expect "a big strong confident man" to approach THEM. so i'm thinking, yes, possible. What is also possible is that they just really want to be noticed, and they are brave enough to say whatever.
@Anthorix Honestly, something about their personality seems off. I think my brain just thinks of them as the people who would take in the guy, then feel they have complete control because the guy would be too shy to do anything.
Okay, I don't get girls, but I can now talk to them as easily as I can talk to anyone. It all happened junior year. You need to learn to talk to them before "getting" them, obviously. Trust me, if anyone knows this it's me. I used to be incredibly shy, and depending on the situation/circumstances I am still shy or super outgoing.
What you wanna do is forget what they'll think of you. Remember, if you're still in school, you'll probably never see 90% or more of these people again. Probably more like 98% for most people. If you go to a college where what seems like a LOT of your classmates are going, then you'll probably still rarely see them, because those colleges will have tens of thousands of kids most likely. Now, this doesn't mean leave everyone with a bad impression. But having this "who cares what people think of me" attitude has helped me SO MUCH socially.
[b]Just learn to give less of a crap about what people think of you, and socially things will become better.[/b] You'll find people who want to know the real you, not the you who's hiding their personality. You have a personality, you just have to find the right people to express it to.
BE CAREFUL to not stop giving a crap about grades and goals and such. I did that as I simultaneously became more social, and my grades went to the drain, and it was pretty bad. So just remember what you're trying to stop caring about, and keep in mind what you can't afford to stop caring about.
Honestly, if you're shy, two things can happen that will help you get girls. 1. She likes that you're shy and she makes the first move (VERY rare) 2. You get the guts to actually ask some of them out, and if you aren't utterly terrified afterwards, you can ask out as many girls as you want.
Knock them down, apologize profusely for being a klutz, introduce yourself and talk to girl, and if your personality doesn't suck and she likes you yay!
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[quote=achyif]I hate to break it to you, but the cold hard truth is that you're going to have to talk to them.[/quote]
And even that shouldn't be considered as something challenging.
just be leng zai and u get ALLLLL the girsl
I hate to break it to you, but the cold hard truth is that you're going to have to talk to them.
@ThotsRUs: I suck at giving tips like this because it's different for every person. It's sort of the idea that what works for me has to work for you. That's never how it works, at least with how things have gone in my past. I guess the main thing in my post was the first point where she may actually like shy guys.
I personally had the courage to just do it and it worked out. Now obviously I may be the 1% in this situation and I am sure I am because most people do have fears about rejection and simply put, they just don't want the idea of rejection always floating around.
Those are my 2 cents.
Getting women is like fishing. Every fish is different. Certain fish like certain baits. If you throw the wrong bait out, you won't get the fish. But if you throw the right bait out, then you will get the fish you want. Just like with women. Some women are attracted to certain things while others aren't. If you approach a woman the wrong way, you will lose her. But if you approach her the right way, you will get her interested. The key is just understanding what type of girl she is so you know how to attract her.
Pick up a pencil when they drop it or lend them an umbrella when it's raining and they'll instantly fall for you and want you inside them, it's foolproof and works everytime
then you dont deserve one.
[quote=Plenair]Yeah, they're more like Pokemon cards, hard as hell to understand.[/quote]
Women are very simple: they want attractive guys who act like ugly guys.
[quote=demonicrack]@Anthorix
Honestly, something about their personality seems off. I think my brain just thinks of them as the people who would take in the guy, then feel they have complete control because the guy would be too shy to do anything.[/quote]
Ah, but that type of personality would also expect "a big strong confident man" to approach THEM. so i'm thinking, yes, possible.
What is also possible is that they just really want to be noticed, and they are brave enough to say whatever.
Uh my GF plays league and so do I, find something that you have in common with a female. Then talk to them about it..
A lot.
@Anthorix
Honestly, something about their personality seems off. I think my brain just thinks of them as the people who would take in the guy, then feel they have complete control because the guy would be too shy to do anything.
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[quote=demonicrack] 1. She likes that you're shy and she makes the first move (VERY rare)[/quote]
Wow,
i found a shiny, but i let it go.
[quote=Zoneflare4]I see this thread going in the wrong direction faster than @idrinkoj can down a donut[/quote]
This thread is about to get locked up like @zoneflare4 's virginity.
Okay, I don't get girls, but I can now talk to them as easily as I can talk to anyone. It all happened junior year. You need to learn to talk to them before "getting" them, obviously.
Trust me, if anyone knows this it's me. I used to be incredibly shy, and depending on the situation/circumstances I am still shy or super outgoing.
What you wanna do is forget what they'll think of you. Remember, if you're still in school, you'll probably never see 90% or more of these people again. Probably more like 98% for most people. If you go to a college where what seems like a LOT of your classmates are going, then you'll probably still rarely see them, because those colleges will have tens of thousands of kids most likely. Now, this doesn't mean leave everyone with a bad impression. But having this "who cares what people think of me" attitude has helped me SO MUCH socially.
[b]Just learn to give less of a crap about what people think of you, and socially things will become better.[/b]
You'll find people who want to know the real you, not the you who's hiding their personality. You have a personality, you just have to find the right people to express it to.
BE CAREFUL to not stop giving a crap about grades and goals and such. I did that as I simultaneously became more social, and my grades went to the drain, and it was pretty bad. So just remember what you're trying to stop caring about, and keep in mind what you can't afford to stop caring about.
Don't be shy.
Honestly, if you're shy, two things can happen that will help you get girls.
1. She likes that you're shy and she makes the first move (VERY rare)
2. You get the guts to actually ask some of them out, and if you aren't utterly terrified afterwards, you can ask out as many girls as you want.
[url=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QNtuAvGvRo8]This.[/url]
It's how all girls feel.
Knock them down, apologize profusely for being a klutz, introduce yourself and talk to girl, and if your personality doesn't suck and she likes you yay!
Gotta catch 'em all!
I learn from the master, "Getbe7ches".
I see this thread going in the wrong direction faster than @idrinkoj can down a donut
They are not yu-gi-oh cards.