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@ibrahim65432: Lol that's pretty extreme. If you're going to think like that you might as well marry a Mennonite.

@fradddd: No you don't have to deal with it, you can get better at it and learn from your mistakes.

Yes.
Part of the reason why I can't ever think of him romantically is because he is way too young for me by my standards and I'm pretty sure he feels the same way, so friendship it is.

No. Women keep men as backup D and men stick around hoping their man makes a slip.

@ibrahim65432 well you took it a bit far, but I was gonna say: I don't get those guys who hug their female friends every single time they see them and such.
I've been hugged so few times that I remember each time. Three girls, five hugs total. They had to initiate.
I don't really know how to initiate a hug or when the right time is, cause I'd do it every time I see a girl if I could, but it doesn't feel right.

Whatever. I just suck with girls of every kind and I gotta deal with that.

I never seemed to get along with a girl. I do talk and have fun talking a bit, but I would never try to go further into A discussion with them. One reason is that I am shy and the other reason for this is because men become weak when together with girls. I have always hated guys that go out with a bunch of girls. I just find it wrong for guys to touch and hug girls that they have no intention to marry. I find them perverted and dirty. I would never want my wife to have been touched by many guys, and/or have involved with s@x with other dudes. The same way in which I do not hug or touch a girl.

When I was younger, sure. I had a couple best friends who were guys. They either didn't say anything, or it was equally platonic and nice.
Now however.. I guess I swanned out or something. It usually seems a mere matter of time before they begin to crush on me and confess. Whether or not we stay good friends or slowly fade out is based off of if they can accept the existence of my boyfriend and it not being them. But even then I like keeping my friends close, so long as they don't act on their emotions and my presence doesn't torture them, I don't really care.
So, while I think it's very possible, at some point one or both parties may express feelings.

I wouldn't know, I developed feelings for my closest friend ever after about a year. She's still a person I enjoy communicating with, but I don't let myself have too much fun around her anymore. It's a crappy situation, but w/e.

Well, if you're not single then I'm sure you can have a platonic female best friend.

Yes, they can. I have quite a few girl friends who I've never had feelings for. It's hard sometimes but can be done.

i have 5 very important best friends of the opposite gender but they all had feelings for me at some point
one of them is actually an ex o.o but weve been friends for 10 years since the breakup, still talk often about what we do, hope, dream, the good/bad experiences we live, etc. its a person i trust very much so i think it is possible for men and women to be friends and very very good ones

Chemistry is always going to be there, but everyone knows reputation is more important that feelings. I can feel tension in the air. The conversations are always about us. We both got lives to live so it's not very often I get to see home girl & I can't really go around flirting in text with her.

Anyways reputation>feelings. Always keep your bearing, because any sign of emotion opens you up to unnesscary involvement.
Its human nature to find the route of less resistance.

Almost all my friends have been girls and I've never felt anything romantic for them. Most of them didn't agree though, lol. Nothing I can do about that.
I've only had 4 male friends in my entire damn life and I've only been attracted to maybe one of them. And that's a heavy maybe.

So yeah it's possible, but you just have to make sure your friends aren't thirsty hoes.

Sure, anyone can be friends with anyone, or at least that's how I always took it.

Although any extremist of any form just doesn't bode well for me. 9 times out of 10 it's gonna make them cry. Because I'm such a "monster" to them.

Best friends...Idk. I fell in love with my best friend. It's hard to be around someone that often, share so much in common and not catch feels after time. As for normal friends, sure.

I have a female best friend of over 7 years. No feelings for her, and I'm pretty sure its vice versa.

I've never had a female best friend as close as any of my male best friend(s).
I've come kinda close, with one of my best friends these days being a female-to-male trans (who likes women). But he is pretty much just a like guy in every way, so not really that close.
I haven't even known my closest female friend (besides my crush) for more than a year--we met in college cause we had a class together every day of the week, happened to sit next to each other in those classes, and we just got along really well, taking two more classes together the next semester, always being partners and hanging out, and eating breakfast together every day.
I crushed on her a little at some point, when I wasn't seeing my huge crush (the 2 year one, ya know) that much, but I'm pretty much just friends with her nowadays.

I have a little problem of only making good friends with girls I find attractive, unless some unattractive girl tries to be friends with me (and they're a good person). So I WOULD probably date any of my female friends if they asked me, because why not? They're attractive, and we already like each other, so what could be bad about dating them? But I realize girls don't think in this way...
Most of my past crushes eventually turned into friends or acquaintances, after I started crushing on a different girl.

you can be friends with an ugly person. but if they are attractive then of course you will always be slightly hoping for some bedtime fun

Yeah, sure. Be friends with someone you're not attracted to.

BEST friend? That's kind of hard without it getting anywhere intimate at one point.