What would you do? Girl Problems Poll Inside
I'm dating a girl right now, I've known this girl since 1st grade and I'm in 11th now. Her parents and my parents have always been close friends. We started dating for over month and our parents are aware and totally support us. Here's the problem. I don't drive and I won't until late April. And we go to different schools. Because of this, I see her at best once a week and sometimes once every two or three weeks. I like her a lot and like being with her, but I don't have enough time with her. I still talk to girls at my school and I have many options for girls at my school to "pursue" if I'd like and nobody knows I have a gf here. My options are (1) cheat (2) break up with her (3) deal with it.
pros to option 1: i can practically get with another really quality girl without either finding out (at least for some time)
cons to option 1: it's cheating. guilt.
pros to option 2: i can see other girls freely
cons to option 2: i don't want to hurt her, because i've known her for a long time. it could also damage the relationship our family has.
pros to option 3: i don't cheat. no guilty conscience.
cons to option 3: i want more, those few hours every weekend aren't enough
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Tbh, go with your flow, everyone got diff morals, personally if I was in your situation I'd probly keep it on the low key and cheat. Haha. Do what you want to do.
"guilty conscience", if you even had a conscience you wouldn't have "cheat" as an option.
Break up with her. She deserves better, that's for sure
If you really loved her you could wait a few months to drive
if you re thinking about other girls in school how can you really value your gf if you can't wait two months for a bloodly paper
>I won't drive until late April
I presume this means car, license and insurance
Why can't you wait until the end of April?
It's only two months dude.
Option 1
If you're actually considering cheating her, AND actually considering finding another girl, just like that, then break up with her. Obviously.
I hope she reads this and does 2 to you before you do 1 to her, if you already considered option 1 then don't do option 3 and just do option 2. Save her the trouble
Deal with it til you can drive. Love hurts man.
you don't really love her
or you can go to her house, meet at the mall using the bus or something
Similar to what other people are saying, I think you should just break up with her since cheating is even an option. It already shows your disloyalty and irresponsibility when it only has been one month.
I hope she breaks up with you
you dont deserve her if cheating is an option for you
if option 1 is legitimately on your mind, then do option 2 because she deserves someone who undoubtedly chooses option 3 without any second thought.
Why would you even consider cheating......considering you've known her since grade 1.....that's what....11 years...? All because you can't suck it up and deal with it? Relationships aren't easy no one ever said they were....honestly the girl doesn't deserve someone like you if you think seeing her once a week isn't enough....some people go weeks and months without seeing their significant others....and truthfully she deserves someone who would want to wait the week just to see her and spend that time with her like it matters..... and you aren't
Deal with it.
Option 3: New kid this option is only for if she's a keeper or not honestly its hard finding a keeeper nowadays and if you've known this female for so long and feel that she's a keeper just focus on school when you don't see her and when you do kick it with her you know go out to dates all that. Finding the right girl is a one in a million chance yeah you might wanna kick it but obviously you can't and if you try to ask all the time you're gonna look thirsty and clingy. Now if you don't care about the female gp for Option 2.
Option 2. You're still young and have every right to see whoever you want without committing serially to anybody. Focus on YOU. Worry about YOUR future. You'll have plenty of time when you're older in life to worry about your significant other and maybe even family but now is more than likely the only time in your life where you will be at your peak, young, and able to establish yourself. Don't waste your youth with someone that you are already bored of. You'll regret it in the future.
You shouldn't be with her if you're even considering cheating, no one girl deserves a guy whose willing to just push her to the side while hes with someone else. And truthfully a girl would rather you break up with them then to cheat on them. If you aren't willing to put in the effort and not to mention the faithfulness, don't go further with her because you'll break her heart even more.
Is she Asian? If so, don't you dare cheat on her! Don't break such a beautiful creature's heart.
Is she not Asian? Cheaaattttttt yeeeeeeeeeee
[quote=mmorpg]Have you seen School Days?[/quote]
as funny as this comment was, it wrecked my feels
Option 1 makes it pretty clear that you don't care much about the outcome of this relationship, so just break up with her
If you were afraid of damaging the relationship between your families, why even bother thinking about cheating? As if being honest about your feelings would damage the relationship more than actually cheating and hurting the girl more
The fact that you've even considered these options shows you aren't right for her, if you aren't going to be serious then do her a favour and just end it now.
You should break up with her.
You seem to have little interest in making your relationship work.
Only you can decide how much the relationship is worth to you.
If you really like this girl you would try your hardest to make it work.
Then again we are talking about a high school relationship here, maybe there is less importance place on commitment or longevity.
Cheat bruuuuuh, what guy doesn't do that?
it's as if you were slowly losing maturity as your paragraph progressed
1) if you have the intention of talking to other people right after breaking up then "don't have enough time with her" is only an excuse
2) you "like her a lot and like being with her" but you're contemplating breaking up so you can "see other girls freely". you contradicted yourself
3) "nobody knows i have a gf here". let me guess, this is a very good thing for you
you don't like her. you just want a girlfriend. if not, don't let limited time together get in the way and actually make time for each other. if that's not possible no matter what then just break up
Option 3 is more romantic. It makes the time you spend with her more precious. Because when you barely see her, it makes you giddier, fonder, and happier when you are with her. It's more intimate too. You're willing to endure a week of dullness to spend a few precious moments with her...
Option 3 of course
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Have you seen School Days?
[quote=Blackest]before i got a gf, i would have never thought about it. but the fact that I really only see her once a week at BEST kinda has me feeling like it's an option.
im not sure that I would, maybe I should just talk it out.[/quote]
The thing is, you don't have to cheat on her. Break up with her before seeing other girls dude. I'm sure it'd suck way less to be broken up with than being cheated on, it isn't fair to her. I agree with my friend coast, (3) if not then (2).
[quote=OnlineMusic]Why is cheating even an option, like really?[/quote]
before i got a gf, i would have never thought about it. but the fact that I really only see her once a week at BEST kinda has me feeling like it's an option.
im not sure that I would, maybe I should just talk it out.
Why is cheating even an option, like really?