General

> Dated girl for 5 years (high school up until first-year university)
> Left for a holiday
> She cheated on me
> Came back, never told me she cheated on me just that 'she lost feelings'
> Continued going to university which we both went to. Still hung out and talked normally
> Eventually 'things' happened and we agreed to be friends with benefits (stupid idea)
> 2 months later she 'falls' for me again. I do too then we try to give it another chance
> 1 month later; break up
> We both enter friends with benefits status quo again
> She finds boyfriend and I move on to other girls

... but no it doesn't end here (and still she hasn't admitted to cheating on me)

> 3 months later she calls me to say happy birthday.
> One random night I get a text from an unknown number. Turns out to be her current boyfriend telling me the bad **** she's done to me and him and to warn me she's always got me on her mind and will come back
> Next morning said boyfriend calls me crying and asking if I'm with her. He had been waiting outside her house for 6 hours. (I actually haven't spoken to her since her call)
> Girl breaks up with boy and immediately jumps into my bed again

.. Friends with benefits continues and lo and behold 'falls' for me again saying the L word. I make it clear I'm not looking for a relationship and I've grown commitment issues. She finds another boyfriend. A year later of lost relationships due to my commitment issues of everything that's happened previously I've found a girl that's picked up the pieces.

Rather sad story; I don't know how I held it together honestly.

@BlackWingBlade: would not wish it on anyone else. you should never feel like you're worth less or worthless that you're going to settle down for someone who's not that great of a person.
rn i guess i'm just going to be single for a while which sucks because i had a great relationship with the guy after him but we lost common ground and i found out he felt that he was upset with how the relationship stopped progressing. wish i knew earlier cus i was preoccupied with other stuff and thought he was okay ugh

Back when I was little I was into the whole Maplestory dating thing. Me and the other girl, we were the cheesiest couple you could ever imagine. Poking on Facebook, sending letters, doing monthiversary gifts. Oh god, those are my cringe days. I don't remember exactly what broke us up for real, but we were always doing the whole break-up-get-back-together thing because she would listen to some love song about how your boyfriend is supposed to fight to get you back and she would be inspired to try it. I think we broke up because one time when she did that I was all like "you know what, I love you so much that I'll respect your personal decision, even though it'll make me cri 5ever" and then we never spoke to each other again.

Never dated anyone since then. Traumatic memories.

[quote=NonSonoFronz]That's actually pretty messed up. Jesus. Why the hell do those kinds of women always do that? Why do they go in for the best friend?
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and a half now. If we suddenly broke up I wouldn't go for her best friend. That's just so... Wrong.
(I mean, if she wasn't her BEST friend I totally would. She's pretty damn cute. But I at least have enough respect to not do that to her. Even out of spite.)[/quote]

From what I understand they started hanging out while we were together then when they got really close is around the time she started to be cold towards me. I don't know if she cheated on me or not, I never bothered to find out. But that new years was the last time I spoke to either of them as well as most of my other friends. Not because I didn't like my other friends but because I did not want them to have to chose sides.

@NonSonoFronz: Summer, so I couldn't do anything about it from April - September, seeing as we live in different cities.
She's had problems with it before, and still does (sees a ther_apist and everything).

Idk. I can't read her as well. Sometimes I think she still has feelings for me, and other times I don't.

[quote=NonSonoFronz]This isn't my worst as in it made me felt the most heartbroken, but the worst as in it was actually a miserable experience.

>Beginning of my freshman year of high school
>Stupidly start dating this chick without really getting to know her first
>Dated for like 5 months
>Turned out she was this crazy psycho suicidal cutter who was also somewhat schizo
>Had a psychotic break one day and broke up with me in the middle of class via text
>Then proceeded to slowly make all of my new friends hate me
>Spread all of these ridiculous rumors about me
>Got the girl I started going out with after her to break up with me (so she could swoop in and try to take me back)
>Got two different dudes to pull knives out on me and threaten to stab me
>Then after all of this nonsense over a year and a half she tried coming back to me like 4 different times

Then finally halfway through my sophomore of high school I called her out on her crap, cursed her out (even called her the C word) in front of all of these people and made her cry. It was a beautiful moment for younger me. Then everyone started hating her because they realized I was right, she got addicted to all of these drugs, got kicked out of her house, got sent to a mental institution three different times, and apparently there are rumors now that she's pregnant and doesn't know who the father is. If karma isn't real, then I'm definitely .[/quote]

damn btches be cray.

OT: After my first breakup I was a psycho stalker ex for like a day, calling non stop. Then the next day I got my sht together and 2 weeks later he wanted me back and I said no. My most recent breakup I treated my ex badly and pushed him away, now I want him back and he want to be single. Some days I'm like oh well life goes on, and other days I'm like boo hoo come back to me. I'm not the crazy ex calling nonstop this time though.

[quote=ClementZ]I know. There was a period when I thought she was using that as an excuse because I know I wouldn't challenge that, but that period has passed.
We're still very close friends, but there's almost nothing I'd rather do than get back with her (which feels like desperation for me, after 5 months).[/quote]

Well, why haven't you gotten back with her yet?
Is she still all stressed out and not ready for a relationship?

[quote=Paako]@ClementZ
I hope you realised that those were valid reasons
It's good that you still haven't given up on her though [/quote]

I know. There was a period when I thought she was using that as an excuse because I know I wouldn't challenge that, but that period has passed.
We're still very close friends, but there's almost nothing I'd rather do than get back with her (which feels like desperation for me, after 5 months).

This isn't my worst as in it made me felt the most heartbroken, but the worst as in it was actually a miserable experience.

>Beginning of my freshman year of high school
>Stupidly start dating this chick without really getting to know her first
>Dated for like 5 months
>Turned out she was this crazy psycho suicidal cutter who was also somewhat schizo
>Had a psychotic break one day and broke up with me in the middle of class via text
>Then proceeded to slowly make all of my new friends hate me
>Spread all of these ridiculous rumors about me
>Got the girl I started going out with after her to break up with me (so she could swoop in and try to take me back)
>Got two different dudes to pull knives out on me and threaten to stab me
>Then after all of this nonsense over a year and a half she tried coming back to me like 4 different times

Then finally halfway through my sophomore of high school I called her out on her crap, cursed her out (even called her the C word) in front of all of these people and made her cry. It was a beautiful moment for younger me. Then everyone started hating her because they realized I was right, she got addicted to all of these drugs, got kicked out of her house, got sent to a mental institution three different times, and apparently there are rumors now that she's pregnant and doesn't know who the father is. If karma isn't real, then I'm definitely .

@Dimo: That's actually pretty messed up. Jesus. Why the hell do those kinds of women always do that? Why do they go in for the best friend?
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and a half now. If we suddenly broke up I wouldn't go for her best friend. That's just so... Wrong.
(I mean, if she wasn't her BEST friend I totally would. She's pretty damn cute. But I at least have enough respect to not do that to her. Even out of spite.)

@Zoneflare4:

I know right. At least it did not end well for her either. She started partying and doing drugs a lot more than when we were together. Flunked out of university. Went from valedictorian of her high school and music captain to pretty much nothing.

[quote=dimo]First girl I ever really cared about was back when I was 18. Gorgeous, smart, talented. Ticked all the right boxes. Had a pretty amazing 18 months together. Then things just became cold from her end, no explanation, she would just shrug it off anytime I tried to talk about it. Broke it off with me a few weeks later, about 3 days before new years. On new years I found her in bed with my best mate at the time.[/quote]
That sounds like something you would see on a soap opera
OT its in the past now

First girl I ever really cared about was back when I was 18. Gorgeous, smart, talented. Ticked all the right boxes. Had a pretty amazing 18 months together. Then things just became cold from her end, no explanation, she would just shrug it off anytime I tried to talk about it. Broke it off with me a few weeks later, about 3 days before new years. On new years I found her in bed with my best mate at the time.

@Luapxal344: it's pretty crazy ain't it?

One time, i was doing homework, and broke - up my equations. It was delightful.

[quote=ClementZ]Broke up with me on the 18th of March because of "stress, and anxiety, and she wasn't ready for a relationship."
Still not over her.[/quote]
@ClementZ
I hope you realised that those were valid reasons
It's good that you still haven't given up on her though

Been in only one relationship but it was during a young age so I didn't know that much.
So a friend of ours invited us to her party, with her willing to go and me being unsure of making it to the party/not wanting to go then later being convinced to go. As the day came, family issues popped up making me unable to go to the party. During that time I had no direct way of contacting her that I was unable to make it. We got into an argument the following day and I called it off there, I knew the relationship wasn't gonna last that long at the state I was in at the time and her putting more effort into the relationship than I was.

Her parents forced her to break up with me, was pretty gutted. It's been like 3 years and I still think about her.

i've only dated one person and i dumped him because he was a little whinny baby and wouldn't stop female doging about his mom

Ahhhhhhh my most sucky relationship break up.....it was with the "love of my life" at the time been together since we were 15 turned 19 and well I thought things were good he met my entire family (HUGE deal for me and gave me a ring like a legit promise ring =_=) ....my best friend happened to be out happened to notice him with this next girl obviously she'd come and tell me what she saw right? So yeah I was taken back cause he said he was working....I let it go and shrugged it off....come November of that year one of my really close guy friends came and told me he saw him with this girl...turns out it was the same one...I questioned him and well voila he admitted to cheating on me....I've never been so betrayed in my life but damn thanks to him I was given the opportunity to be happy and find someone new who treats me right.... and well sucks for him since he's now married at 23 and has kids the last I herd...lmao don't wish them bad but meh she knew I was his gf and still went to do what she did so all I can say is best of luck to them.....

still with first gf, going strong year and 2 months
I only started dating at 20 so I kinda did wait for a really good catch, and I got herrr

Never mind, there are some rule breaking references in my story.

She probably saw you on Basil and decided she couldn't associate with someone who visits such a horrid site.

@Dorks can't tell if your situation is worse than not having a relationship at all.

i dated some guy for 4 years, maple/long dis relationship. we met before but anyways
it was always kind of on/off, we'd break up because he would no longer have time for me and 1-2 months later one of us would hit up the other one in good-ish terms like "hey whatup whatchu been up to" and we'd laugh and have fun. then it'd go back to being relationship status. we'd maybe have another month or so of good fun, lots of skype and then it would drop on his side. we would end up arguing, say insulting things to each other and break up again 'til the new cycle begins.
i think at some point i told him i felt stuck with him and he said "well might as well right" and that was very VERY stupid of me. [b]ladies and gents, if you weren't happy before in the relationship, it ain't gonna change the next time around.[/b]

so the last time around, he got distant again, would not tell me where he's been until i started arguing. then he said "well i was on vacation but i didn't need to tell you cus you're not obligated to know anything i do" (RED FLAG)
i broke up with him and was like "you know what, screw this i'll find someone better and more attentive"
but then i found out he had cheated on me prior so i went through that rough time of not eating and starting therapy. at the time my depression hit all the high points except for suicide.

then back in May, he tried hitting me up through someone else and we ended up talking in a skype call. he told me he was so in love with that girl l0l and he let me say whatever i wanted and at first he was like "well i see you've grown" then to the guy "you're everything she wanted, i'm glad i got out of the way so she can get someone better" (this is where i want to go questionmarkquestionmarkquestionmark but basil prohibits that) but last minte he said "nah you're still that sad little girl who will never change" because i think i said something mean but w/e

now he stalks my tumblr sometimes l 0 l

[quote=pinoymystic]my first one was freaking terrible. ill post it later.[/quote]

i remember the story u wrote about it last year or 2.

my first one was freaking terrible. ill post it later.

edit: long story short, I liked this guy for 2 years. dated him for a year and 6 months. he broke up right after i came from hawaii because he needed space (but i literally gave him all the space he needed. if yall think im freaking clingy, you're freaking wrong. i always let him do his own thing at school and when i told him it's time for us to break, he said he didn't want to.)

i'm really bitter and i'm not in need of relationships.

This was my first time and probably only online/long distance relationship. I met this girl through my friends in a maple Skype room. It's pretty funny because we actually stopped playing maple entirely.

After talking for about a month I decided to ask her the big question since we only lived one province away, got a long very well and she's an asian cutie. She says yes and some of best 4-5 months of my life pass just talking to this girl on Skype literally every day after school until I fall asleep while watching movies with her, doing homework or playing league of legends (yeah she plays - amazing right?) and then 5 months down the road, one afternoon she gets weird.

She says that she has no emotion for me, school or anything and think we should take a break so that she doesn't treat me badly but she doesn't want to break up with me. That was hard for me to hear and a bit confusing because yesterday she seemed totally fine. Anyway I understand and I just go with it because maybe I've burned her out with being in her life almost all day every day? Idk. So I wait 3 weeks, over the course of the three weeks we barely talked at all and when we did talk it was like we were strangers, I told her how I felt multiple times and how I thought that if it was going to continue we should just break up and to tell me if that's what she really wanted but she kept telling me she didn't want to, I didn't say that to threaten her I said it because I thought that's what she wanted to but didn't want to hurt me.

Apparently I was wrong. After 3 more weeks of being basically ignored by my girlfriend I finally told her that I wanted to break up. She got really mad about this and said some pretty mean things. Since then I've deleted her from my contacts and we haven't talked at all, we're in the same Skype room but we don't say anything to each other so that's a bit awkward but besides that it kinda sucks. I don't have anything against her, I would even be her friend again I just want her to apologize.

Edit: My past 3 relationships have been in real life so it sucks that by trying something new I had it end very badly.

@Capricious: She's Korean. I'm Italian.

Broke up with me on the 18th of March because of "stress, and anxiety, and she wasn't ready for a relationship."
Still not over her.

[quote=RitoPls]My ex who lives in California and I had a very on and off online thing.

I'm gonna visit her in December. I'm pretty sure she's the one I'm going to marry: she loves my cock.[/quote]

I'm sorry, I know this is irrelevant, but I must know her race. I just have to know.

[quote=iTempo]Why do you use both he and she in this sentence. it's confusing me[/quote]

his hand doesn't conform to your gender binary

My ex who lives in California and I had a very on and off online thing.

I'm gonna visit her in December. I'm pretty sure she's the one I'm going to marry: she loves my cock.

@Capricious: She lived in Canada and I live in NY, and we met up once. But I had to end it cause I really didn't want a cross-country relationship

[quote=0kevqn]Never had a real girlfriend before. Real as in not online[/quote]

If you've had an online girlfriend and broke up with her, then talk about that. You won't find me judging.

She waited years just to tell me I'm not good enough. I don't blame her. She deserves better than me. I wish we could still be friends.

Never had a girlfriend.

lol I've only "dated" a guy once and I thought I fell in love and he said he loved me and I said it back but goddamn he broke up with me a few weeks later and just told me it wasn't working out and I was sad about it for so long because I was so happy when we were together and I wanted love so badly I let myself believe I had it and then I lost it and I'm pathetic but I'm over it now I guess.

I just want to be happy like that again. Ever since then I've only really "hooked up" and made out with people so I guess that doesn't count.

Idk I've only been in one relationship. We were both done. We ended it. It was fine. Now when my best friend stopped talking to me, that's a totally different story. I'm still not over her hating me. It's been about a year and I haven't been able to move past it.

Never had a real girlfriend before. Real as in not online

Told the girl I would kill myself if she continued to break up with me. I was 14 at the time. It is one of those moments where I cringe every time it randomly pops into my head.

nvm i made a pact to keep things less personal here lmao