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@4kush20: That's sweet of you but in a lot of cases it just doesn't work all that well. If you constantly soothe her while she talks about her self-doubt she will learn that she will always get approval this way and will talk about it over and over again. If you make it an accepted and well-responded-to topic it won't change anything cause your words won't matter but THAT you say something nice.
Not saying you should treat it like nothing or anything either but it shouldn't be made a potential constant topic.
May I ask why you two broke up though?
@DrkGenesis: xD right, it just seems to be comparably rare in men... or idk xD rawr

@Nashi: Haha, I'll get by somehow xD I guess I'm just used to it because of my last relationship my ex would constantly get in these depressed moods and down herself so I felt like I constantly had to compliment and try to boost her confidence.

@4kush20: Well thing is if you're ALWAYS nice to her and suck up to everything it gets really tiring. I had a boyfriend like that. He was sweet and caring and all but he'd always suck up to it and give me no reason to respect himself cause he didn't show and act like he's respectable. I just got really sick of that after a while.
It's great if a man is romantic and sweet and everything but if they always are then there's just SOMETHING missing. I can't quite point at what though sadly my last ex was a typical asshole (It's funny how i went from complete softie to complete asshole..), my man now is actually perfectly balanced. I've always noticed him to be a very manly and independent guy but somehow he still managed to be very nice and caring towards me. Even since we've been dating, even though he got much softer and nicer around me (naturally) he's still really manly and independent and that's just what makes him REALLY attractive. Some guys don't know where the fine line is and I sadly can't quite help you either

This is why homosexuals have such good relationships.

@Nashi: Oh wow, that must be frustrating, think I'd go crazy if I didn't have someone to vent about my day to But I can understand how he feels a little I guess
And smh, I bet they miss some of the balanced guys because they see he's soft and probably friend zones him right there before even getting to know em. I don't think I could be an ass to a girl I have feelings for, just to be with her. The way I see it is that you should always be sweet and soft to your girl but that doesn't mean I won't back her up or fend off assholes and perverts when she needs it xD

Also @ your answer to goatliver, what about when she gets mad and freaks out on you because you kept asking and then brings it up like days-weeks later and says you don't care about her xD

@4kush20: There's lots of guys that don't talk about it sadly. My man is one of them xD Since he doesn't wanna think about his day while he's with me.

And girls fall for assholes cause assholes know how to act to get what they want. They also seem "manlier" due to their ruthless behaviour at times and since a lot of women want a strong guy around an asshole shallowly seems like the best option to please their desire.
"Nice guys" (and a lot of times those are suck-ups or softies) just can't provide that kind of level of manliness and there are far too few well balanced men (manly yet soft).
"all men" are bad after such a failed relationship cause all "MEN" she's able to see (cause nice guys ain't boyfriend material or considered manly) are like that so in her "world" that assumption IS true

@Nashi: It differs I think because I actually enjoy talking about my day, especially if it's a stressful one, always good to know you have someone you can lean on in a time of need. But the girlfriend/fiancee/wife would be the only person to get to see that side of me, a guy doesn't want other people to see or know he can be weak at times.
Just my personal opinion though, Other guys could give you something completely different. xD

Question: Why do some girls always fall for an asshole and then when he breaks their heart, they say all guys are (insert bad word here) when that isn't true at all

@DrkGenesis: You don't avoid the friendzone. You're either attractive to someone or you're not.
I can't quite say how I'd like to be confessed to but I do know that the way my Fiance did it was great (but unique). Not a situation that happens to many people anyway.
I think you should have AT LEAST went through one arguement successfully before confessing. If you can tell you respect each other and you will stick to each other even during bad times you're good to go for a relationship
@influencials: [url=http://exotic-existence.tumblr.com/post/52602526731/kittenfeminist-tomtom1996-you-realize-the]Because being a best friend doesn't qualify you for a relationship. You either click or you don't. Has nothing to do with "friendzone".[/url]
@smalliebiggs: Personally I wouldn't. I hardly want children myself (thinking about all the work and everything), then again I do want some. In the end it's not something major for me yet. It may be for others and I'm certain there are people that think it's a no-go for a partner to not want children.
@iDrinkOJ: Size does not matter. In fact, the bigger the worse...
Personally when I receive a compliment I feel embarrassed and bothered since I never know how to react to it
@4kush20: Let it out silently or wait until I know nobody is around
@NonSonoFronz: Never heard of taken men being specifically attractive... then again it could be cause a taken man is "proven worthy".
@kurandox99: never heard about it being a taboo. Even if so, I personally don't care, I talk about what I want to.
@ShadeCaro: We can't tell you what's most romantic in HER eyes, so just ask her what she would enjoy. Personally I'd prefer a walk on the beach cause I'd prefer to be alone with him. Walking around in a city at night may be thrilling but wouldn't leave much space to focus on each other. But that's my opinion so whenever you're not certain about something ask HER, she can give you the best answers of all.
@goatliver: Because girls expect you to put more effort and never quit trying for them. Sometimes chicks are emotionally driven to make the guy ask them over and over and there's like a line you have to cross for them to finally answer (like, some kind of level of effort you need to put for them to feel like you REALLY wanna know and care) and a lot of times guys stop "too early" or right before she would have opened her mouth and it's a BIG disappointment and incredibly upsetting.
Does this answer your question?

Question to guys: Why do you never really talk about how your day was or how you feel, even to your girlfriend/fiancee/wife?
If you don't like talking about your own day, do you also not wanna hear how hers was?

[quote=MissRae]@Lilac: Horses can't type or express their feelings. <3[/quote]
Oh whoops, sorry for being rude to you first, especially when I don't even talk to you.

Question to Girls: My girlfriend and I are going on our 5th date soon. But what's more romantic: Walking around in Seattle at night or a beach walk at sunset?

@Lilac: Horses can't type or express their feelings. <3

[quote=MissRae]Aren't you a horse?[/quote]

oh sorry, I didn't know that all horses were exactly the same.

[quote=Nikkkkii]Reading the questions from guys to girls, I've just realized how flawed my gender is. [/quote]

Aren't you a horse?

[quote=kurandox99]Why is it so taboo for girls to talk about [b]p[/b]opc[b]orn[/b][/quote]
it isnt?
whats wrong with popcorn?

[quote=NonSonoFronz]GIRLS, WHY DO YOU BECOME MORE INTERESTED IN TAKEN MEN?
Is it some sort of test?[/quote]

cause they see they are "successful" in getting into a relationship

@NonSonoFronz: Girls in general (excluding some exceptions, me and some other girls) want guys they can't have.

GIRLS, WHY DO YOU BECOME MORE INTERESTED IN TAKEN MEN?
Is it some sort of test?

@opmeTK: Well girls play hard to get...because (some of them) are afraid of being too easy
@LazyLazyLazy: there are various reasons... Example: 1. they don't like you 2. they are having a bad day

[quote=Laker1294]Question for guys: Why are you afraid to ask a girl out after she confesses?[/quote]

Not afraid, just not attracted.

[quote=LazyLazyLazy]Q to girls: Sometimes random girls look at me with an annoyed face. What does that mean.[/quote]

You're awesome.

Q to girls: Sometimes random girls look at me with an annoyed face. What does that mean.

[quote=DrkGenesis]Awh. No one answered my question. :c.
Couple of Questions for Girls:
How would you like a guy to confess to you? And when should he do it? How long should he be, at least, friends with you before confessing?
How should a guy be romantic? Do you girls like surprise hugs and kisses? (In the situation that the two are together in a great relationship, that is.).
How do we avoid the friendzone?
Thanks. .[/quote]

1. Privately and in person. As long as me and this guy clicks, I guess. I like the chase too so I'm not really sure about time.
2. I like hugs and kisses and getting picked up. I'm a little wary of PDA so as long as it's not excessive it's fine.
3. Don't be a submissive doormat who only compliments the girl and nothing more. Be real with her, show that you're a person with feelings too. Most importantly, she has to like you back. If you happen to be in the situation where she's sort of into you but she puts you in the friendzone anyways, don't be afraid to get mad about it.

@SoulBlade: A sure sign is to look at her friends if you talk to her. If they seem to be all giggly about it, it's a pretty good chance that they've said something about you. Also, ask her yourself or if you like her back just confess.

Girls: How much better can it get? Harleys, Maseratis, Gallardos

@kurandox99:
Most girls (I am a guy) are disgusted by the subject. It would be like talking about crap.

@SoulBlade: She would give you more attention (more than any other guy), smiles and looks at you often, flirts with you, compliments you, becomes happy when she sees you

[quote=Laker1294]Question for guys: Why are you afraid to ask a girl out after she confesses?[/quote]

I can't speak for everyone, but because we are always nervous around our crush. I would get even more nervous after a confession (after pinching myself of course). I wouldn't know what to do.

Questions for Girls: How can we know if she likes us, or is just being friendly?

@kurandox99: Society expects girls to be innocent. It is perceived in the media.

@MegGriffin: The media influences girls and they want to be skinny.
@opmeTK: Girls want guys to take initiative.
@Bobishness: Depends on their personalities and looks do matter to some extent. I'd say that they're equally as attractive.
@PrimeRuler: Depends on the girl, this only applies if the girl chooses her mate only based off of personality.
@FriedSnake: Skinny girls have thigh gaps. Girls want to be thin.
@rld81: They have huge egos.
@UgliestBetty: I believe they expect their boyfriend to figure it out/read their minds.
@EquineBM: Depends on how weak he is.
@Zephyrous: Their egos are hurt and they overgeneralized guys.
@NeozWarriorx: Girls in general are into guys that are "exciting". Nice guys don't really take risks.
@DrkGenesis: There is no such thing as the friendzone; it is basically rejection. I'm fine with whatever method he uses except if his friends confess for him. He should do it when I'm in a good mood and we should be good friends.
@iDrinkOJ: Depends on the girl.
@4kush20: Depends on the girl.

Question for guys: Why are you afraid to ask a girl out after she confesses?

[quote=LetThereBeFradd]@MissRae: I have a question: how come it's easy for guys to tell when other guys are jerks but for girls it's not easy.[/quote]

A jerk doesn't need to fake being something he isn't in front of a guy but he does if he wants to get girls

@LetThereBeFradd: Probably cause they've been there and done that. Like if a girl tells you about how her bf is acting a guy is gonna know better what that means, not a girl. It's hard to accept sometimes that it's time to let things go when your boyfriend starts treating you wrong too. I mean in my case I knew he was becoming a jerk but I just thought it was just a bump in the relationship and things would eventually get better. I didn't break up with him though, didn't have the strength despite seeing it coming. I guess it's cause girls deny it cause they fell in love with that person and can't accept they've changed and don't want them anymore.

@SoulBlade: Ya that has to be true cause honestly my ex wasn't a jerk during the "chase" or while we dated. He only changed when he didn't want to be together anymore, it's hard to tell if a guy is a jerk.

@LetThereBeFradd: Is a months time not enough to tell if it's ok to date a guy? I'm sure if I waited longer it wouldn't make a difference

[quote=MissRae]Q: Why do guys spend all this time trying to get the girl, make all these promises then leave?

When guys ask: "Why do girls always go for jerks?" - We don't know they're jerks at first, only when they change, and it's kinda too late.[/quote]

Not all guys leave like that, just the jerks. The reason for that is because apparently it is cool to get lots of girls.

The guys that ask why do girls only like jerks are butt-hurt people that can not get a girlfriend. The real reason is because the jerks just know how to do it.

[quote=DrkGenesis]Awh. No one answered my question. :c.
Couple of Questions for Girls:
How would you like a guy to confess to you? And when should he do it? How long should he be, at least, friends with you before confessing?
How should a guy be romantic? Do you girls like surprise hugs and kisses? (In the situation that the two are together in a great relationship, that is.).
How do we avoid the friendzone?
Thanks. .[/quote]

-They should be fairly good friends. I think that they should confess if the guy knows/feels like the feeling is mutual. Often times, when one person confesses while the other doesn't feel the same way, it's a hard/awkward situation to handle. (ie If the girl is iffy about it, go for it! If she doesn't at all, then refrain)
-Be creative. The typical movie stuff is cute and all, but it's even better when you think of something out of the box. (Or just tweak the movie stuff)
-Unfortunately you don't. No really, I don't know where it comes from. Maybe you can try being borderline friend/more than friend and see if she goes along with it.

Why do we play Maplestory?

Q: Why do guys spend all this time trying to get the girl, make all these promises then leave?

When guys ask: "Why do girls always go for jerks?" - We don't know they're jerks at first, only when they change, and it's kinda too late.

[b]My responses to guy targeted questions:[/b]
@diceylove: why is it that when your in a relationship, they guy's are the ones making money..but then later on when the roles change and the girl is one making more money than you by a long shot you guys get controlling, jealous, mean & become total losers?
It's been like this throughout history - men have always been seen as the breadwinners. When we can't fulfil this role, I guess we just feel unreliable and somewhat useless? I personally don't mind if the girl makes more money; if anything, I'd be rather happy! I mean... trophy husband, how good does that sound?
@colour: How long does it take you to take a sht?
Hmm, depends... couple of minutes? Wiping is always a problem though
@dorks: This could be directed to the ladies too but how did you feel about your first times? If you haven't done it yet do you expect anything?
It's actually really interesting how people feel about their first times. I have a couple of mates who regret their first times because it wasn't as memorable as they hoped. Then again, I also have this mate who feels ashamed of their first time.
I'm still a virgin and to be honest, I'm not eager or anything. I just think that sex is something that's going to happen eventually, so I might as well carry on with my day to day life. I don't have many expectations, all I know is that it'll be something I remember and it'll probably be pleasurable on both ends.
@friedsnake: Why are some guys so obsessed with all things masculine?
I'm not actually sure what you're trying to ask here, but interests are all subjective. Men tend to like masculine things because its nature appeals to men? If that makes any sense. I've never met anyone overly obsessed with masculine things but maybe it's because they feel the need to meet up to social standards.
@Tamechi: Do you guys feel obligated to make the first move? &how would you feel if the girl initiated something instead?
I feel obligated to but I don't because I find it awkward and uncomfortable. So if a girl were to initiate, I would feel so glad and relieved.

[b]Other questions I could answer:[/b]
@Quasar: A zombie unicorn enters your room while you are on your bed and under you pillow is three things: A rock, a knife, and a toilet plunger. Which thing under your pillow do you use to kill the zombie unicorn? (You can only pick one.)
Why not use the pillow?
@ASAPtrilla: Why don't girls stick to their role?
Throughout history, men have been seen as the dominant gender, so it's understandable that you have such a perception of women. However, in more recent times, people have realised that males and females are equal resulting in a shift in the traditional responsibilities and roles.
@gangar32 : Why do girls act like they want to be treated equally but yet insist on guys paying on dates, opening doors, etc?
Paying for dates, opening doors and things like that are all part of chivalry. It's not a matter of inequality; it's just a social norm that we are raised with. If you want to be gentleman-like, it's something that you are expected to do.
@pr3stig3: Admit it, looks do matter, especially since that's the first thing you notice about a person
Only if you're superficial. Most humans are actually more sophisticated than that, instead of judging purely based on looks, many actually consider other factors, such as the compatibility of personalities and hobbies.
@PrimeRuler: Is it possible to get girls if I'm not physically attractive?
Yes it is. It definitely is. Refer to answer above.
@LetThereBeFradd: How do you guys follow this freakin' thread?
Whats so hard about following this thread?
@ThePhantomTheif: Are girls real?
In real life - yes. On the internet - no, there are no girls on the internet.
@influencials: Whats the reason for girls to friendzone their best friend?
I like to think that I'm worth too much for them to risk destroying the relationship

Wow. This is procrastination at its best

I don't really have any questions that need to be answered.. Grew up with 2 very open sisters.. Sadly
Umm let me try to think of something... Oh, lol awkward but all i could think of asking, where do you pass gas
most girls i know have never farted in front of or near me except for very close childhood friends and family members, so when and where do you do it? Do you hold it in or walk off or try to let it out silently

Edit: @above it doesn't bother me if a girls makes a move first but how things go afterwards really depends on how long i've known her
Like, if we haven't known eachother for very long, i'll feel like you're easy and not worth starting anything with so you will be friendzoned or fyouck freindzoned
(if you're into that kind of thing and i'm single) but if it's a girl i've liked and known for a while and haven't tried anything on yet, i'd be pretty happy about it because i got a chance with a girl who i was too shy to make a move on... I was just thinking, also even if it's a girl i've known for some time.. She still may be denied because there could be a reason i didn't make a move, like me not being attracted to her so she would just be friendzoned

[quote=influencials]Q: Whats the reason for girls to friendzone their best friend?[/quote]

If that person is really their best friend, the chances of them being friendzoned would be rather low (or I assumed it would be).
But like what above said, it's most likely because they just aren't their type. (If it makes you feel better, you could say the cliche "value friendship/dont want to risk" thing).
>>They might be scared that when you go from friend --> boyfriend you transform from this amazing, great friend to a werewolf or something idk.

Q: Do you guys feel obligated to make the first move? &How would you feel if the girl initiated something instead?

[quote=influencials]Q: Whats the reason for girls to friendzone their best friend?[/quote]
I second this

[quote=Bobishness]I can tell this will be a male dominated thread.
Anyways, my question for you ladies is who would you pick to be in a relationship with based on looks alone, the buff guy that dresses in sweatpants and hoodies or the skinnier boy who dresses extremely well.[/quote]

Dunno, the clothes come off either way

Q: does size really matter?
Q: if a girl receives a compliment from a guy on her appearance, what goes on inside her head? Does she feel flattered or goes into "defensive mode", thinks the guy is superficial?

would you leave your man if he told you he didnt want children?

[quote=influencials]Q: Whats the reason for girls to friendzone their best friend?[/quote]

Because they do not find them attractive enough to date.

Q: Whats the reason for girls to friendzone their best friend?

@Dorks: Yeahhhh I liked her too much that I couldn't think right, lol. When we finally dated, I started to think..."wait, if she liked me that whole time while she was in relationships, she could like some other guy while we dated" so I just ended it there. I kinda feel like a dbag for just ending it without telling her why ._.
Aaaaand she got expelled for bringing pot brownies on 4/20 LOL. So yeah, definitely not around her anymore. She's a bad influence

@Zephyrous: Aw I'm sorry That's 3 times too many. If she complained about something like "there's no one for me" after another failed relationship I'd be like "gurl, I was the best thing you were gonna get but you effed up so glhf"

But on a more serious note, I hope you're not around her anymore.

@Dorks: Oh I have made it clear, lol. This one girl and I had a thing, and we both had feelings for each other, but she decided to randomly date some other guy one day and continued to talk to me, claiming to still have feelings for me, lmfao. And then they broke up and blah blah blah, and went back to me and then did it AGAIN. 3 times total. I'm just stupid, lol.

[quote=Zephyrous]A question for the ladies...
Why do you guys complain that there is no one for you, or that every single guy you date is a jerk, when you have a sweet friend who cares about you right in front of you?
[/quote]

I like to be realistic sometimes and say that a good chunk of relationships don't end mutually. That statement is just an overdramatic cry for attention anyways.
About the sweet friend thing, unless you actually made it clear to the girl you like that you have feelings for her, all she is going to see is a good friend. Being nice is not all it takes. You have to be genuine with her too.

Why do girls always go for the bad boys how do they know who they are?
My old relationship i told my gf my deepest darkest secret but then she was like give it up and ill love you so eventually i gave it up and when i came over to say it she died later my butler gave me a letter from her saying youd never give it up im going out with a goody goddy attorney as it turns out half his face burns off and he killed 9 cops
howd she know hed be a bad guy?

[quote=DiceyLove]i actually don't know if you're trolling or not.
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/02/business/breadwinner-wives-and-nervous-husbands.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0[/quote]
I am not going to read that long article. Besides, the newspaper, really? Newspapers always catch the most dramatic points in the world.
And why can't everyone discuss maturely/nicely? I swear controversy threads always have to include the words mean, loser, or jerk in them.